If you have spent any time working toward personal growth or have read any personal development books you have likely heard the term “limiting beliefs.” While the conversation around limiting beliefs seems to be the “it” topic right now, many do not go deep enough into these psychological defense mechanisms to explain what they are, let alone where they come from.

Today, we’re taking a one-on-one deep dive into how limiting beliefs negatively impact your life, how we trick our brains into believing our limits are keeping us safe, and I’ll walk you step-by-step into identifying your limiting beliefs, and most importantly how to shatter them and ultimately eradicate them from your life!

If you are ready to get your life together, and grow in ways you’ve yet to even imagine, this is the conversation that may just put you on the path!

Key Takeaways:

00:00 Introduction

01:53 A series of statements that help you identify “normal” limiting beliefs—the speak of our limits

04:11 The brain is the gatekeeper and processor of every bit of information that comes into your awareness

05:15 We are mean making machines. We are the ones who place value on our thoughts and feelings. This is highly important when it comes to limiting beliefs.   

06:30 An example of neutral thoughts and how we develop limiting beliefs by our value placement

11:30 Our working definition of self-limiting beliefs

13:00 Whatever limiting statement you feed yourself becomes the filter in which you see the world

15:00 Limiting beliefs drive fear, anxiety, and life dissatisfaction  

16:35 Most of our limits can be traced back to our childhood: how these small moments create long-lasting issues

19:25 Trauma and past experiences lead to limiting beliefs, too  

20:15 How to identify what limiting beliefs sounds like in our daily conversations

21:20 Doing an honest assessment is the first step in breaking limiting beliefs

23:07 Question #1 for self-assessment: What area of my life am I afraid or anxious to act on?   

23:43 Question #2: What are the areas I wish were different or need improvement?  

23:57 Question #3: Where do I want to be in each of these areas?   

24:20 Question #4: Where did this limit begin? Whose voice is speaking?

26:32 Making a note each time a negative thought or limiting belief comes in will help you target what is happening within your mindset and inner conversation

27:53 Starting on the surface level, let’s shatter the beliefs in three simple steps. Step #1: Look for evidence that challenges the belief

29:41 Step #2: Experiment with our behaviors—acting in direct contradiction to the limit

30:38 Step 3: Reinforce positive beliefs

31:49 Cognitive restructuring: what it is, how we do it, and how it impacts us in the long term

32:40 We first root out any Cognitive Distortions. Listen to Episode 52: Negative Thoughts Running Your Life to learn more

33:33 We then work toward self-witnessing the thoughts that come in

34:11 With the self-witnessing process we can realize most of these thoughts are not within our personal ownership

34:57 We can then question the limits validity and truthiness

36:07 We then look for another angle–a counter thought

36:50 We then do a cost-benefit analysis of our thoughts

38:23 Once we’ve reached this place, we start generating alternatives

40:54 What occurs when we shatter our limiting beliefs!

Ultimately, when you give yourself permission to let go of the old stories and everything that is working against you, you begin to see how wildly capable you are of everything and anything you’ve ever dreamt of or desired.

It starts by saying yes to yourself and no to the limits. You deserve to shatter anything that is not working in your favor and it’s an essential step to getting your life together, girl.

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