Epi 57: Becoming UNSTUCK: 6 Common Hurdles We ALL Experience With Darcy Luoma
Do you ever find yourself feeling stuck?
No matter how different your life may appear from others around you, at one point or another, it’s likely that you will experience a hurdle, a kind of “stuckness” that rules you. Unfortunately, this is true for nearly every woman alive at one point or another.
As the saying goes, life isn’t about what happens to you; it’s all about how you react—taking that a step further, it is also about how you make your life work in your favor.
This week we’re exploring just that with the six common hurdles women experience with Darcy Luoma of Thoughtfully Fit. Darcy takes us on a journey through the barriers that get in our way, how we often self-sabotage, and gives us the solutions to the hurdles that no longer have to make us feel small or hold us back.
This is an eye-opening conversation that leans into vulnerability, relationships, our personal efforts, and how to create balance.
Key Takeaways:
00:00 Introduction
01:30 Meet Darcy and her intention behind serving women who want to be high-performing, empowered females
02:30 The highest performing people all have one thing in common. Darcy explains what that common trait is and how it impacts us
03:32 Years of research and fieldwork open Darcy’s eyes to the common struggles most individuals encounter
05:55 The 6 Common Hurdles – 3 internal and 3 external.
#1 “There’s so much to do that I can’t even think.” The lack of stillness
07:54 How we fear stillness and how scheduling is necessary
10:15 A quick tip for stillness and creating boundaries in your life
11:47 Hurdle #2: “I don’t always handle myself the way I would like.”
13:28 At the core of not handling yourself well are three steps to help you show up as you would like:
1. Pause
2. Think
3. Act thoughtfully
15:50 An essential point of view that flips the script on any challenging moment
16:24 Hurdle #3: “I’m stuck!” Learning endurance and overcoming
19:32 Creating awareness through harnessing what is within the moment
21:36 The first of the three external hurdles, Hurdle #4: “I’d be fine if only you were different.” Learning how to stretch and accept others as they are
25:07 Hurdle #5: “My relationships are out of balance.” Step out of each situation and formulate a plan.
27:00 The 3 Cs of hurdle #5
1. Courage
2. Compassion
3. Curiosity
28:34 Darcy’s brilliant take on compassion
31:57 Hurdle #6 “I react poorly when I’m blindsided.”
37:39 The #1 hurdle most people find holds them back the most
41:02 What true success means, and what it looks like, and no, it’s not perfection or a perfect life
45:37 Darcy’s 3 things
What stands to me most about this conversation is that while our lives may appear miles apart on the outside, we all experience similar emotions, roadblocks, and minor nuisances that can trip us up and hold us in place. And yet, with effort and thoughtfulness, we have the power to change our story.
If you are interested in taking the Thoughtfully Fit quiz or learning more about Darcy, you can follow her on Instagram @DarcyLuoma. Or visit her website at darcyluoma.com.
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