Epi 116: How to Create Emotional Safety Within Yourself
Each of us has a set of basic human needs that must be fulfilled for us to thrive in our humanness—feeling safe is second in our primal needs on the need hierarchy. So, if I ask you what it means to be safe, most people give me an answer based on physical safety. Yet, what most people do not understand is that safety also expands into our mental, emotional, physical, and even financial pillars of life, which means that safety must be present for the well-being of our minds and emotional bodies.
As we continue our building series to close out the year, we’re taking a one-on-one deep dive into what it takes to feel emotionally safe, why it’s so important to create emotional safety, and, as always, we’ll talk about how to start the process of building emotional security with a few daily practices.
So, let’s dive right in…
Key Takeaways:
00:00 Introduction
02:26 Why we are talking about emotional safety. Check out Epi 107 for an understanding of your emotions
04:08 A powerful quote we all need
06:12 The definition of emotional safety
09:32 Traits of emotionally safe people – Epi 114 to learn about self-validate
15:30 Emotional safety is relative and individual to all of us
18:50 If you have a long history of trauma, you may struggle with safety—a practice to try
22:58 Our emotional safety is often most disrupted by our behaviors—talking energy leaks and addiction
25:40 Accepting your emotions is the first way to build emotional safety within us
29:12 Active Listening is a must for emotional safety
33:36 Foster your accountability and follow through
37:08 Other benefits of emotional safety
Emotional safety is not too big or hard to tackle and create. It starts with what am I feeling? Am I safe in this feeling? I am…good…I know I can process it.
You can never suppress emotions and get to a state of feeling good. You just simply can’t. So what do you need? What will or does make you feel emotionally safe?
It’s one of the most important things to know, and it is an essential step in getting your life together, girl. Love this show? Please leave us a review here – even one sentence helps! Become a Get Your Life Together, Girl Insider! Sign up here! Free downloads are available right now!
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