Is your life owning you or do you own it? Big question, right?

After years of studying our experiences, emotions, and behaviors, there’s one thing that I know with absolute certainty and clarity, our personal history, our stories, have incredible, therapeutic healing power.

The problem is most of us do not use this power to our advantage. There is a tool that each of us has access to that is self-directed and requires nothing more than your thoughts, a pen, and a piece of paper.

Let me ask you a question: What do you see when you stand in the mirror? Do you like the way you look? Do you immediately notice your perceived flaws and begin to feel upset with what is before you?

Body image is not merely superficial. It can be so intense that it dysregulates your emotional well-being and mental and physical health, while it creates a storm so big that you struggle to find balance, self-love, and inner peace.

We are taking a one-on-one deep dive into loving ourselves from the outside in! First, we’re unpacking the one mistake most women make when loving their physical form, and it’s different than you might think. And then, we’ll talk about how to change your relationship with yourself so that you can elevate your life.

Do you ever feel like you are a different person to different people in your life? Do some people see one side of you while others do not? Or, do you ever feel like you struggle to express yourself fully? Maybe you knowingly hide behind who you truly are deep inside? If so, you are not fully engaging with and living through your most authentic self.

This week we’re taking a one-on-one deep dive into authenticity.

Do you ever feel like a ghost moving through your own life? Your voice barely causing a ripple in conversations, your opinions floating by unnoticed, leaving you questioning your worth and place in the world. If this resonates with you, then today's episode is tailored for those you as you are grappling with feelings of invisibility.

These are the tools to allow you to move forward and feel seen and heard!

Welcome to another enlightening episode of the Get Your Life Together Girl Podcast. Today's episode is a must-listen as we explore the complex world of validation – both internal and external – and how they coexist in our quest for self-acceptance. We all seek validation—to feel accepted and understood. Social media bombards us with ideas of what validation should look like but remember it's both an inner and outer process.

Today we'll explore how validating yourself can reduce dependence on others' opinions. Let’s dive into why both internal and external validation are necessary for a fulfilling life.

Let’s dive right in!

No matter where we look in life, there are expectations. It's when the expectations become a problem that we begin to build anxiety. How we deal with it can lead to our overall mindset and life satisfaction. That's why today, you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into expectations and high-functioning anxiety. That space where we look like we have it all together, yet inside, we can be frozen with fear and self-doubt. We're breaking it. All down and I'm giving you some tools. And tips to help. You win at your mindset and learn to set your expectations while dealing with some form of anxiety. So, let's not waste another second.

So, you play a number of roles in your life, all with expectations, from partner, mom, friend, colleague, child, perhaps sibling, and more. With so many roles, your attention and needs are often scattered, which can lead to you living in an internal storm of turmoil.

There is a path out of such feelings and behaviors. I sat down with mom guilt expert Melissa Peduzzi to talk about her method and tools to help mom’s everywhere show up as their best selves and create solid relationships with their children.

Do you hold grudges?

While the dictionary definition of a grudge is simply being mad at someone for something they did, holding a grudge is much more profound. It’s this unequivocal anger that is beyond something. Healthy last week we talked about what to do when someone hurts you and not processing. Today, we’re taking a deep dive into what it means to hold a grudge, how it impacts you, and how to finally let it go. Let’s not waste one single moment and dive in!

We have all been hurt by someone we love. Engaging in relationships puts you at risk of heartache simply by the nature of giving of one’s self. Yet, when this occurs, do you know how to get over it? Do you know how to allow yourself to feel and move on? Many don’t; that’s why you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into what to do when someone hurts you, and the steps you may need to take to get over the things that have caused you pain. This week is part one of a two part series.

Let’s get right to it.

What does it mean to be in balance? That’s a question many have been seeking the answer to, and more importantly, the feeling and overall life impact of finding that balance.

While there are many ways to get there, one ancient medicine and lifestyle may hold the secrets and tools you seek.

That’s why I sat with Ayurveda expert and teacher Emilie Berger to chat about balance and how our lives interconnectedness, mindset, body, and harmony are found and created in small, purposeful increments. Emilie’s insights and daily tools can change your relationship with calm.

We all know what a comfort zone is and live within it. But, have you ever really thought about what a comfort zone actually comes down to, how it impacts you, or the fact that they’re pretty much a dream-like reality that we create to keep ourselves safe? They are boundary lines that tell us what we’re willing to do and are not willing to do. However, everything can be pushed and changed when it comes to our comfort zones. That’s why we are breaking down ways to step out of our comfort zone, and everything we are talking about is something we’ve yet to uncover. So, let’s get right to it.

We live most of our lives in our heads, thinking, calculating, edging our way to the next, and in doing so, we often fail to be mindfully present and live according to our heart and soul connection.

Today, we make an effort to start the journey away from the mind and into a deeper, more soul-driven connection. I sat down with mindfulness and meditation teacher Fleur Chambers to talk about meditation, mindfulness, self-permission, connecting with the self, and what it takes to live in growth.

Growth and self-love are not mutually exclusive. Loving yourself takes effort, exploration, release, healing, and understanding there’s more to self-love than self-care. And, while the effort to promote self-love has become a hot topic across the internet and social media, there’s also been a push to define and push self-love in a way that absolutely does not support your mental and emotional health.

Today, you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into what self-love is NOT! It’s important to understand both sides of the coin so you can best serve yourself in the long run.

So, let’s dive right in.

I sat down to have a riveting conversation with Psychotherapist Brook Bralove, who is a certified sex therapist. Get ready for a conversation that will open your mind as we break down how to have great sex, the female anatomy, the value of bringing tools into the bedroom, and we lean into what it means to be willing to try and how being open to having uncomfortable conversations could lead to a great sex life.

What does it mean to be radical and relentless? Once you know the definition, how do you get there? Being empowered is a full life shift and action. I sat down with therapist Allison Guilbault to talk about how we can step into our power and become radical and relentless with small shifts and focused attention that create massive movements toward loving yourself.

Let’s get right to it!

What does it mean to stay with yourself? Those are profound words with even more significant life implications. Staying with yourself involves personal integrity and self-respect. It means understanding and standing up for your beliefs and values and not yielding to the expectations of others. It’s a trueness that is raw, deep, and unquestionable.

But how does one do just that? I sat down with meditation teacher and coach Jessica Amos to talk about the ins and outs of self-discovery, staying with yourself, and leaning into the practices that feed you on every level, not just the one we show to the outside world.

Many of us struggle with the concept of being good enough. But, what if you are already good enough? While you may reject that idea in its entirety, I sat down with therapist Lisa Tahir to chat about connecting with yourself and proving your mindset wrong when it questions your worth and right when you are in alignment of what you need and want!

Let’s get right to it…

The ball has dropped, the calendar has changed, and it’s 2024. There’s so much possibility, potential, and energy waiting for you in this new here and now. So much, in fact, that today, you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into kicking off the year with a forward focus. We are trashing any lack mentality you’ve developed, tossing out the word resolution, and we are getting intentional about what you need and want.

So, let’s dive right in…

We’re taking a one-on-one deep dive into why the brain is always on the lookout for trouble, how to stop being hijacked in hopes of providing a false sense of safety, and we’ll breakdown how to disentangle ourselves from our earliest patterns, wiring, and our triggers.

This big conversation will shed light on why you may be causing yourself more issues than you realize!