Worry is an emotion that, although it can be helpful in working through certain situations when used to drive plan-based or result-based thinking positively, yet, when it’s done in excess and occurring multiple times throughout any given day that worry can be problematic to the mind, body, and soul on all levels. Stress from worrying affects the circulation of energy in the body. It disrupts the nervous system and impacts your liver to the point that it dumps excess sugar into the bloodstream and impedes your inner voice from allowing your wisdom to be heard and acknowledged.

Did you know that most people have a common failure pattern? Most people have strategies that they engage in that causes them to struggle or even fail, even if they truly desire to win or have a positive outcome.

Knowing your patterns are essential, and it’s the subject of this week’s mindset reset. Kayla from the UK wrote, “Danielle, I often feel stuck. I’ve read books. I’ve worked with a therapist. I’ve listened to your podcasts on being stuck, but I keep wondering if the problem isn’t actually me. I spend a lot of my time thinking about how hard it is to make changes, and then I stop myself from doing the work. I am unrealistic about how long change takes and constantly beat myself up. I am always failing. I can see this is a pattern for me, but I don’t know how to change it. Can you help?”

One of the hardest things to teach is self-connection—yet, connecting with yourself is the only way to create a sense of belonging and empowerment, and it’s the only way to find authenticity. With that much riding on inner connection, we have to build an inner relationship that starts somewhere, and that somewhere is within you.

Jillian from Bar Harbor, Maine, wrote in and said, “Danielle, I read a quote the other day that said, ‘If you do not feel like you have a place in the world, connect with your inner self.’ (End quote). That’s a fine statement, but what if you do not feel like you are connected with yourself, either? Sometimes I feel as if I’ve been asleep my entire life. As I do more work on healing and growing, as you suggest, I feel as though I need a few more tools to connect with myself. What would you suggest?

Oh, my goodness, this is the 100th episode of the Get Your Life Together, Girl Podcast! What an adventure this has been—I’m so grateful for everyone who has listened, written in, asked questions, and suggested topics. You’ve made all 100 episodes incredibly special. I’m excited to see what another 100 brings.

Today, I thought we would chat about purpose!

So, let’s dive in. First, I want us to shift our perspective. I believe we have gotten too narrow in our thinking when it comes to the idea of living our purpose or finding one life purpose. This conversation may go against popular belief, and I’m okay with that.

Is your life owning you or do you own it? Big question, right?

After years of studying our experiences, emotions, and behaviors, there’s one thing that I know with absolute certainty and clarity, our personal history, our stories, have incredible, therapeutic healing power.

The problem is most of us do not use this power to our advantage. There is a tool that each of us has access to that is self-directed and requires nothing more than your thoughts, a pen, and a piece of paper.