Today’s mindset reset comes from Sarah in Michigan. She wrote, “I used to think I had healthy self-esteem, but recently I’ve been questioning myself. I do not feel confident I can do what I want and need. I am constantly comparing myself to others, especially friends in my group. I’m triggered by small mistakes. I feel like I’m failing in every area of my life. When I said this to my mother, she said, ‘Your self-esteem is shot.’ Then, she told me all the ways I needed to stop being hard on myself, which did not help. How do I know if low self-esteem is my problem, and how can I turn it around?

Habits are important. They are important as they really do serve us in the long run. A habit is an action we've practiced into a routine, and it's important to know that your mind works in patterns. When we practice something enough times, our mind locks it into place. Your thoughts become beliefs. Your beliefs become actions. Your actions become habits, and that's all well and good until it doesn't work for you.

Sadly, we now live in a world where being offended by even the littlest thing is a standard. Yet, by not getting offended so quickly, you minimize your stress levels and open yourself up to new ideas, thought processes, emotions, and experiences.

Bella Jean from Portland, Oregon, wrote in and said: “Danielle, I have been working on growing and becoming a better person over the last year, but there’s something that I can’t quite grow out of yet. That’s not taking offense when someone questions my thoughts or feelings or when my family tells me I’m wrong because they haven’t done all the work on themselves that I have done. It’s tiring, and I want to let things slide off my shoulders, but I don’t know how. Can you help?”