Epi 6: Are Sloppy Boundaries Ruling Your life?

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When you think of the word “boundaries” what immediately comes to mind? For most people, it’s the word “limit.” But, are all boundaries truly limits? Or is there a better word, a better operation, that we can employ to make boundaries work in our favor once and for all?! There is! And, this week we are taking a one-on-one deep dive into shifting our mindset around our inability to hold our boundaries, and how sloppy boundaries impacts us more than we think. In fact, weak boundaries keep us from finding balance, creating ease, and keeps us doing, saying, and feeling things that simple do not work for us! So, let’s shift our perspective, learn to hold space for ourselves, and let’s chat about how boundaries play a crucial role in our identity and HOW TO KEEP OUR BOUNDARIES IN PLACE! Because, we all deserve to have our lives together, girl!

Key Takeaways:

00:00 Intro

1:20 Show of hands: who is struggling with boundaries? (You, too!)

2:01 The function of boundaries

2:40 A new definition of boundaries

4:01 Shifting into guidelines over boundaries

4:48 A-ha Moment!

7:46 What do healthy boundaries look like?

10:10 What do unhealthy boundaries guidelines look like?

13:29 How to set healthy guidelines in 4 simple steps

14:25 Step 1: How are you going to spend your time?

14:42 Step 2: What will you tolerate?

15:20 Step 3: The impact of your actions?

17:24 Step 4: Self-trust

18:55 Communicating your needs and boundaries allowing space

22:26 No vague language

23:00 Stick to “I” to “me”

24:11 Stick to the subject

24:44 Trigger Warning: A truth we all must own

25:50 Looking at triggers

27:39 Clear communication requires clear consequences

28:35 The power of apology

29:00 Owning yourself in your boundaries

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Danielle Vann

Danielle A. Vann is a Cognitive Behavioral Therapist, Life Coach to women, Meditation Instructor, and international award-winning author.

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