Do you ever feel like a ghost moving through your own life? Your voice barely causing a ripple in conversations, your opinions floating by unnoticed, leaving you questioning your worth and place in the world. If this resonates with you, then today's episode is tailored for those you as you are grappling with feelings of invisibility.

These are the tools to allow you to move forward and feel seen and heard!

Welcome to another enlightening episode of the Get Your Life Together Girl Podcast. Today's episode is a must-listen as we explore the complex world of validation – both internal and external – and how they coexist in our quest for self-acceptance. We all seek validation—to feel accepted and understood. Social media bombards us with ideas of what validation should look like but remember it's both an inner and outer process.

Today we'll explore how validating yourself can reduce dependence on others' opinions. Let’s dive into why both internal and external validation are necessary for a fulfilling life.

Let’s dive right in!

No matter where we look in life, there are expectations. It's when the expectations become a problem that we begin to build anxiety. How we deal with it can lead to our overall mindset and life satisfaction. That's why today, you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into expectations and high-functioning anxiety. That space where we look like we have it all together, yet inside, we can be frozen with fear and self-doubt. We're breaking it. All down and I'm giving you some tools. And tips to help. You win at your mindset and learn to set your expectations while dealing with some form of anxiety. So, let's not waste another second.

Do you hold grudges?

While the dictionary definition of a grudge is simply being mad at someone for something they did, holding a grudge is much more profound. It’s this unequivocal anger that is beyond something. Healthy last week we talked about what to do when someone hurts you and not processing. Today, we’re taking a deep dive into what it means to hold a grudge, how it impacts you, and how to finally let it go. Let’s not waste one single moment and dive in!

We have all been hurt by someone we love. Engaging in relationships puts you at risk of heartache simply by the nature of giving of one’s self. Yet, when this occurs, do you know how to get over it? Do you know how to allow yourself to feel and move on? Many don’t; that’s why you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into what to do when someone hurts you, and the steps you may need to take to get over the things that have caused you pain. This week is part one of a two part series.

Let’s get right to it.

We all know what a comfort zone is and live within it. But, have you ever really thought about what a comfort zone actually comes down to, how it impacts you, or the fact that they’re pretty much a dream-like reality that we create to keep ourselves safe? They are boundary lines that tell us what we’re willing to do and are not willing to do. However, everything can be pushed and changed when it comes to our comfort zones. That’s why we are breaking down ways to step out of our comfort zone, and everything we are talking about is something we’ve yet to uncover. So, let’s get right to it.

Growth and self-love are not mutually exclusive. Loving yourself takes effort, exploration, release, healing, and understanding there’s more to self-love than self-care. And, while the effort to promote self-love has become a hot topic across the internet and social media, there’s also been a push to define and push self-love in a way that absolutely does not support your mental and emotional health.

Today, you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into what self-love is NOT! It’s important to understand both sides of the coin so you can best serve yourself in the long run.

So, let’s dive right in.

You’ve probably heard the saying, “Control is an illusion.” And for all points and purposes, it absolutely is. It is also one of the greatest paradoxes we experience in life. We are to be in control, but not try to control every situation, while finding a sense of control to keep ourselves safe. It’s no wonder we screw this up and use control in ways that often negatively impact us.

That’s why you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into control. We’ll take a journey into the three root causes of control, and we’ll talk about repairing your relationship with specific outcomes, no matter what situations you may be facing. By the end of this conversation, you’ll have a new understanding of why the art of surrendering is so damn important!

So, let’s dive right in!

What you carry, you must pay for in one way or another. That’s true whether it’s actual financial debt, physical debt of not respecting your body, mental debt from not thinking thoughts that serve you, or emotional debt from suppressing your emotions. We talk so much about trauma and impactful events, but what we often truly fail to address is how the debt, the weight, shows up in our lives as a symptom to something greater.

That’s why you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into emotional debt, what it is, and then we’ll examine one of the most significant symptoms we feel—feeling disconnected.

If you ever feel emotionally exhausted, weighted down by the stories in your head, or feeling disconnected, you are not alone, but this is the conversation for you.

Growth and self-love are not mutually exclusive. Loving yourself takes effort, exploration, release, healing, and understanding there’s more to self-love than self-care. And, while the effort to promote self-love has become a hot topic across the internet and social media, there’s also been a push to define and push self-love in a way that absolutely does not support your mental and emotional health.

Today, you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into what self-love is NOT! It’s important to understand both sides of the coin so you can best serve yourself in the long run.

So, let’s dive right in.

How often have you heard the quote, ‘Communication is Key?’ It’s something we do every day in our lives, whether in spoken words or through our body language. But why is it so important? Maybe the bigger question is why it gets us in so much trouble. With communication being the baseline of everything we do, you and I are taking a one-on-one into expressing yourself, our mistakes in communication, and how to build better relationships through the way you communicate!

So, let’s dive right in.

Increasing your happiness every single day is not only an options, it’s a necessity. Think about this—If you focused on becoming 1 percent happier each day between now and the end of the year, you would be over 200% happier. This is a huge jump.

So today, you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into happiness, some of the top things that get in our way, and how we can shift and define what happiness means to us, not happiness by the standard of others.

This is one conversation that puts happiness into tangible reachable terms.

There comes a time where each of us seeks true motivation to heal—a time where we work to release the baggage, the upset, the hard experiences of our lives, and reignite our inner spark. Yet, when that time comes, many of us ask how. How do I even begin to heal? This week we are taking a one-on-one deep dive into YOUR personal story, into YOUR life revolution through a process and path many of us are seeking right now—the process of emotional healing. So, sit back, grab a pen, and let’s take a mending journey together as we discover what true emotional healing is, the benefits, uncover a major “a-ha” moment, whether or not you are in need of walking through this process, and why we must get uncomfortable to thrive. Getting out of own way is necessary if we want to create the life revolution that inevitably amounts to freedom.

As we begin to close any year, it’s natural to move our mindset into what we desire to create for ourselves in the next 365 days. After all, that is why we set intentions, resolutions, and goals, but there’s one factor that must come first—a factor that most people bypass and then stand back and can’t figure out why life never seems to work out for them. What is this factor? It’s permission—it’s making affirmative, action-based choices that allow us to move into our highest and greatest intentions.

How many times have you uttered the words, “I am not good enough?” Unfortunately, for many, it’s too many times to count. So, this week, we are taking a one-on-one deep dive into shifting our mindset around how we devalue ourselves and our worth. Whether we realize it or not, our self-talk, belittling ourselves, and buying into other people’s opinions have the power to break our connection to our worthiness and how we show up in the world. This is one behavior that has real-life consequences.

No matter where you live around the globe or what holiday, tradition, or religious ceremony you celebrate, mental health, emotional uneasiness, and your physical health can easily be knocked off-kilter during this time of year. So, this week we are taking a one-on-one deep dive into reimagining the holidays through finding and maintaining our center, holding space for ourselves, stripping away expectation, and allowing joy to thrive within the present moment BEFORE the season gets in full swing. Creating a plan now is essential to removing the overwhelm and maintaining your mental health and balance.

Anxiety is one of those things that simply does not discriminate. It doesn’t know age, race, financial status, education, where you live, what you’ve done, what you do for a living, it can strike and grab ahold of you when things are good or when things are absolute hell. For many, anxiety is a real battle that they feel they have no control over. This week we are taking a one-on-one deep dive into understanding the difference between worry, stress, and anxiety. In doing so, we’ll journey through how each of these plays out in our lives and ultimately land on five real world techniques that can be used to break the overwhelming cycle of anxiety.

Everywhere you turn, the word “affirmation” seems to be taunted as the end-all-be-all to shifting your mindset into a permanent place of positivity. Yet, even with the widespread popularity, many question whether affirmations genuinely work or if they are just another personal development/self-help scheme to sell more journals and books. Yet, most do not understand that the practice, when used correctly, does have the powerful ability to shift your mindset and your life! This week we are taking a one-on-one deep dive into understanding the affirmation practice through factual science, brain chemistry, the thought process, and the ins and outs of making this practice genuinely work in your favor, despite what others may be touting.

Have you ever wondered to yourself…who am I? I bet you have, and yet, I even more willing to bet that when you began to try to formulate an answer, you only allowed yourself to scratch the surface of the real you. The you that is not defined by labels, titles, the roles you play, what you own, or even who you’ve been told you should be.  

What comes to mind when you hear the word negativity? What do you see, or more importantly, who do you see? The “correct” answer may surprise you as we take a one-on-one deep dive into empowering ourselves through understanding self-esteem and one common unhealthy habit that kills the overall opinion of ourselves, trashes our self-confidence and self-love, and ultimately, and keeps us in cycles that can be exceptionally difficult to break. What is this habit? Self-gaslighting.