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What comes to mind when you hear the word negativity? What do you see, or more importantly, who do you see? The “correct” answer may surprise you as we take a one-on-one deep dive into empowering ourselves through understanding self-esteem and one common unhealthy habit that kills the overall opinion of ourselves, trashes our self-confidence and self-love, and ultimately, and keeps us in cycles that can be exceptionally difficult to break. What is this habit? Self-gaslighting.

It’s a habit that is quick to own us. So, let’s shift our perspectives and learn how to stop using our thoughts and inner conversations as emotional warfare against ourselves… Leveling up, shifting our mindset, and creating balance is more accessible than you think!

Key Takeaways:

00:00 Intro

01:30 Trigger Warning: The negativity you are experiencing may just be coming from your own mind!

02:45 A serious question: What comes to mind when you hear the word negativity?

03:06 The “normal” responses that may only be half of the truth.

04:11 A shift in perspective with a few keywords.

04:39 Self-gaslighting: what it is and how it becomes emotional warfare.

06:19 How self-esteem plays a role in self-gaslighting and what self-esteem is at its most basic definition.

07:45 The habits of those with healthy self-esteem and what it looks like from the outside.

11:27 Are you emotionally manipulating yourself?

12:26 The examples of gaslighting that may shake you.

15:43 Why self-gaslighting is unhealthy mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically.

17:26 Other signs and symptoms of gaslighting - #1 Belittling yourself.

19:08 #2 Undermining yourself and how that keeps you from your greatness. 

22:47 #3 The awful truth behind self-doubt.

24:13 #4 Taking on blame and blaming yourself.

25:04 #5 Finding and owning your personal truth.

25:30 Breaking down how we can overcome the emotional warfare of gaslighting.

27:18 How does gaslighting show for you? Putting the stopgaps in place right now.

29:18 Leaning into your negative self-talk.

31:53 How willingness and permission play a role in exploring your deeper emotions and creating change.

34:20 A recap of the steps

34:59 Learning how to honor your truth.

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Looking for more? Visit: www.getyourlifetogethergirl.com, where you will find Danielle’s personal development/self-help blog. Until next time…be kind to yourself and others.

Danielle Vann

Danielle A. Vann is a Cognitive Behavioral Therapist, Life Coach to women, Meditation Instructor, and international award-winning author.

https://www.danielleavann.com
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