As we wind down the year, headed to a new twelve months in 2025, we are starting a 4-week journey together. A journey designed to help you reflect on the most fundamental questions that guide your life. Together, we are diving into a question that seems so deceptive simple yet is so profoundly how for. That question is, What do I want? As we explore this question, we're going to uncover that the answers aren't just about surface level desires or even material goods. It's about uncovering your authentic self, your values, and your visions for the future. And by the end of this conversation, you’ll have practical tools to help you answer that question and help you start aligning your life with the things that matter most to you.

Are you moving through something big right now? You are not alone! However, we often think we are when we move through significant moments. In this space, we struggle to let go of what is no longer serving us because fear and guilt trump our needs and our perceived worthiness to have a grounded, healthy, and happy life.

And thanks to fear, many believe that letting go is impossible, traumatic, or downright impossible. This week we are doing just that through a one-on-one deep dive into the shadow side of healing. We’re entering a space where we consciously create a path for our deepest desires, the self-awareness process, and learning how to let go of people and relationships, heavy emotions and trauma, attachment, and the obstacles that stand in our way.

Do you ever feel like a ghost moving through your own life? Your voice barely causing a ripple in conversations, your opinions floating by unnoticed, leaving you questioning your worth and place in the world. If this resonates with you, then today's episode is tailored for those you as you are grappling with feelings of invisibility.

These are the tools to allow you to move forward and feel seen and heard!

Welcome to another enlightening episode of the Get Your Life Together Girl Podcast. Today's episode is a must-listen as we explore the complex world of validation – both internal and external – and how they coexist in our quest for self-acceptance. We all seek validation—to feel accepted and understood. Social media bombards us with ideas of what validation should look like but remember it's both an inner and outer process.

Today we'll explore how validating yourself can reduce dependence on others' opinions. Let’s dive into why both internal and external validation are necessary for a fulfilling life.

Let’s dive right in!

No matter where we look in life, there are expectations. It's when the expectations become a problem that we begin to build anxiety. How we deal with it can lead to our overall mindset and life satisfaction. That's why today, you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into expectations and high-functioning anxiety. That space where we look like we have it all together, yet inside, we can be frozen with fear and self-doubt. We're breaking it. All down and I'm giving you some tools. And tips to help. You win at your mindset and learn to set your expectations while dealing with some form of anxiety. So, let's not waste another second.

Do you hold grudges?

While the dictionary definition of a grudge is simply being mad at someone for something they did, holding a grudge is much more profound. It’s this unequivocal anger that is beyond something. Healthy last week we talked about what to do when someone hurts you and not processing. Today, we’re taking a deep dive into what it means to hold a grudge, how it impacts you, and how to finally let it go. Let’s not waste one single moment and dive in!

We have all been hurt by someone we love. Engaging in relationships puts you at risk of heartache simply by the nature of giving of one’s self. Yet, when this occurs, do you know how to get over it? Do you know how to allow yourself to feel and move on? Many don’t; that’s why you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into what to do when someone hurts you, and the steps you may need to take to get over the things that have caused you pain. This week is part one of a two part series.

Let’s get right to it.

We all know what a comfort zone is and live within it. But, have you ever really thought about what a comfort zone actually comes down to, how it impacts you, or the fact that they’re pretty much a dream-like reality that we create to keep ourselves safe? They are boundary lines that tell us what we’re willing to do and are not willing to do. However, everything can be pushed and changed when it comes to our comfort zones. That’s why we are breaking down ways to step out of our comfort zone, and everything we are talking about is something we’ve yet to uncover. So, let’s get right to it.

Growth and self-love are not mutually exclusive. Loving yourself takes effort, exploration, release, healing, and understanding there’s more to self-love than self-care. And, while the effort to promote self-love has become a hot topic across the internet and social media, there’s also been a push to define and push self-love in a way that absolutely does not support your mental and emotional health.

Today, you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into what self-love is NOT! It’s important to understand both sides of the coin so you can best serve yourself in the long run.

So, let’s dive right in.

Let me ask you a question I’ve been chasing the answer to for most of my life. Is there such a thing as broken people, or are there only broken moments?

Your answer may vary from the truth depending on where you are in your life, what you’ve experienced, and how you’ve processed what has been and what you believe will continue to occur.

Today, you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into redefining the idea of broken, and I’ll hand over something most of us are not taught, which is how to become comfortable with being uncomfortable. This is one conversation that shatters our traditional thinking and flips what you thought you needed to move forward on

You’ve probably heard the saying, “Control is an illusion.” And for all points and purposes, it absolutely is. It is also one of the greatest paradoxes we experience in life. We are to be in control, but not try to control every situation, while finding a sense of control to keep ourselves safe. It’s no wonder we screw this up and use control in ways that often negatively impact us.

That’s why you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into control. We’ll take a journey into the three root causes of control, and we’ll talk about repairing your relationship with specific outcomes, no matter what situations you may be facing. By the end of this conversation, you’ll have a new understanding of why the art of surrendering is so damn important!

So, let’s dive right in!

What you carry, you must pay for in one way or another. That’s true whether it’s actual financial debt, physical debt of not respecting your body, mental debt from not thinking thoughts that serve you, or emotional debt from suppressing your emotions. We talk so much about trauma and impactful events, but what we often truly fail to address is how the debt, the weight, shows up in our lives as a symptom to something greater.

That’s why you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into emotional debt, what it is, and then we’ll examine one of the most significant symptoms we feel—feeling disconnected.

If you ever feel emotionally exhausted, weighted down by the stories in your head, or feeling disconnected, you are not alone, but this is the conversation for you.

Growth and self-love are not mutually exclusive. Loving yourself takes effort, exploration, release, healing, and understanding there’s more to self-love than self-care. And, while the effort to promote self-love has become a hot topic across the internet and social media, there’s also been a push to define and push self-love in a way that absolutely does not support your mental and emotional health.

Today, you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into what self-love is NOT! It’s important to understand both sides of the coin so you can best serve yourself in the long run.

So, let’s dive right in.

How often have you heard the quote, ‘Communication is Key?’ It’s something we do every day in our lives, whether in spoken words or through our body language. But why is it so important? Maybe the bigger question is why it gets us in so much trouble. With communication being the baseline of everything we do, you and I are taking a one-on-one into expressing yourself, our mistakes in communication, and how to build better relationships through the way you communicate!

So, let’s dive right in.

I often talk about trauma, what it is, and how it impacts our behavior. Still, unless you are sitting in private therapy sessions with me or someone else, you rarely get a glimpse of the small nuances of trauma, especially trauma that occurs in childhood.

I sat down with fellow trauma expert, therapist, and author Riana Milne to talk about childhood trauma, mindset, and how we can take control of our lives despite what has happened in our past. Riana helps us understand that many things we do result from something we may need to clean up.

So, let’s dive right in!

Increasing your happiness every single day is not only an options, it’s a necessity. Think about this—If you focused on becoming 1 percent happier each day between now and the end of the year, you would be over 200% happier. This is a huge jump.

So today, you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into happiness, some of the top things that get in our way, and how we can shift and define what happiness means to us, not happiness by the standard of others.

This is one conversation that puts happiness into tangible reachable terms.

There comes a time where each of us seeks true motivation to heal—a time where we work to release the baggage, the upset, the hard experiences of our lives, and reignite our inner spark. Yet, when that time comes, many of us ask how. How do I even begin to heal? This week we are taking a one-on-one deep dive into YOUR personal story, into YOUR life revolution through a process and path many of us are seeking right now—the process of emotional healing. So, sit back, grab a pen, and let’s take a mending journey together as we discover what true emotional healing is, the benefits, uncover a major “a-ha” moment, whether or not you are in need of walking through this process, and why we must get uncomfortable to thrive. Getting out of own way is necessary if we want to create the life revolution that inevitably amounts to freedom.

Who isn’t impatient every now and again? We all experience hiccups and inconveniences from time to time, and the minute things don’t go quick enough or the way we hoped and desire, impatience seems to be cued.

Some of life’s moments are largely unavoidable, however, what isn’t is the way we deal with our behavior through our unpleasant reactions.

That’s why today, you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into impatience, what it actually is, and how to build the practice of patience into your daily life. Without it, you struggle to mindfully be present, in a positive place, and practice gratitude. We’re breaking it all down.

Fear, it’s a nasty word and an even nastier emotion. It keeps us caught in small boxes. It keeps us from showing up to our present life, future, relationships, jobs, families, you name it. If fear is present, you are not thriving to your fullest potential.

That’s why you and I are taking one-on-one deep dive into the fear of making the wrong choice! Fear is the biggest enemy to your decision-making, and it can hold you captive even when the stacks feel like life and death. So, if you have ever found yourself uncertain, feeling “stuck,” unable to move forward, or wishing someone else could choose for you, this is the conversation for you!