Epi 356: Unpacking Your Baggage
Are you moving through something big right now? You are not alone! However, we often think we are when we move through significant moments. In this space, we struggle to let go of what is no longer serving us because fear and guilt trump our needs and our perceived worthiness to have a grounded, healthy, and happy life.
And thanks to fear, many believe that letting go is impossible, traumatic, or downright impossible. The truth is, there is a shadow side to healing. Yet, there are ways to soften the blow by doing deep preliminary work ahead of our healing.
This week we are doing just that through a one-on-one deep dive into the process of letting go. We’re entering a space where we consciously create a path for our deepest desires, the self-awareness process, and learning how to let go of people and relationships, heavy emotions and trauma, attachment, and the obstacles that stand in our way.
So, let’s shift our perspectives and our ability to heal, move forward, and own our most extraordinary, most empowered life.
Key Takeaways:
00:00 Introduction
01:32 A big question: Are you moving through something right now?
02:41 So many women are seeking change by letting go of what is no longer serving them right now!
04:39 Answering the top questions: How do we move on?
05:00 Three hard truths of letting go
#1: Holding onto anything that doesn’t serve you is a conscious, willing choice
#2: There’s a shadow side to healing
#3: You have the ability to move through or let go of anything once you stop getting in your own way
08:03 Look at the four areas of letting go we are most impacted in:
Letting go of a person or relationship
Letting go of an attachment
Letting go of trauma or difficult emotions
Letting go of the past
08:36 One “little” thing you must have in place before you can let go – self-trust
09:51 Self-trust goes beyond knowing you can do something. It’s about relying on yourself and knowing what you need.
12:09 Self-trust is formed through taking responsibility
14:36 Letting go of a person or a relationships – what is required before letting go
17:27 The exercise of stripping away the emotions to get down to the facts
21:45 Engaging in mindfulness serves us in this process, and then we call the emotions back in
23:00 Looking at how control keeps us in suffering
24:19 Letting go of attachment
25:36 Another hard truth: Our struggles come from our attachment
26:16 We must learn to justify less
29:40 We must use self-compassion when letting go, and the four questions that help us lean into it
31:13 The act of “holding lightly” is a beautiful practice
31:59 Letting go of trauma and hard emotions
33:58 Using our emotions for our benefit
36:35 Letting go of the past
38:18 How do we let go? Step-by-step
#1 Outline what you need and want
41:12 #2 Be prepared for the hard times. Create an intention, activity, or mantra to serve you
43:31 #3 Create distance
46:20 #4 Do your own work
46:51 #5 Give yourself space and time to grieve
47:20 #6 Allow your emotions to flow
48:39 #7 Lean into forgiveness
49:39 #8 Be willing to adapt
50:22 #9 Witness your experiences through a lens of gratitude
52:17 Actively move into peace through doing the work
53:20 Surround yourself with your tribe
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