Have you ever questioned why healing hurts so bad? If you have, you are not alone. Healing from anything is a process and life dramatically transforms when we learn to let ourselves feel, accept, and grow through the things that happen to and through us.

When we offer resistance, we strengthen our pain and all the coping skills that come with it. Because this is so common, many refuse to do the healing work needed to help themselves heal and thrive.

That is why you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into why healing hurts, how to move through healing of any kind, and what must take place once we get to a place of acceptance and change.

So, let’s dive right in.

Key Takeaways

00:00 Introduction

01:36 The reason for the conversation & my healing story  

07:05 Why does it hurt when we move into healing?  

07:49 Breaking down what hurt means 

09:45 Emotional pain is activated in the same area of the brain as physical pain

11:45 The more you resist pain, the greater it becomes—swimming upstream

15:16 Witnessing pain and our events we open the wounds

18:18 The suck-it-up mentality cause deeper pain

19:01 We have to allow the process of healing—stage 1 Grief and denial  

20:26 Stage 2 is anger

21:32 Stage 3 is bargaining

22:23 Stage 4 is depression. A new definition of depression

24:15 Stage 5 is acceptance, and acceptance is not a happy place most times  

25:55 You must be patient when in active healing

27:15 Can we go backwards during healing?

28:26 Go back to the four fundamental questions

29:39 Can you heal on your own?

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Danielle Vann

Danielle A. Vann is a Cognitive Behavioral Therapist, Life Coach to women, Meditation Instructor, and international award-winning author.

https://www.danielleavann.com
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