In this episode of the Get Your Life Together, Girl podcast we delve into the revolutionary benefits of slowing down for our mental and physical health.

This conversation was sparked by my own step back from constant busyness. The insights I share here are the ways I did less to gain more!

Most of our suffering and upset come from how tightly we hold onto our perspectives as truths and the emotional, mental, and physical behaviors we cling to that never serve us, such as perfectionism, procrastination, negative self-talk, and avoidance. When we live from a space that prevents us from experiencing our life to the fullest, where we are closed to everything and open to nothing, we keep ourselves in a cycle that pushes against growth and ourselves.

There’s a term for this behavior, and it’s self-sabotage.

Today, you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into self-sabotage, what it is, and how it impacts us. Then we will move into a space where we learn to be observers of ourselves and our behaviors so that we may grow, find self-love, rest in inner peace, and fully thrive as the souls we are in our human experience.

A question was sent in asking how someone may identify repressed anger. It’s a great question and the subject of this week’s Mindset Reset. While working with a licensed professional is the best way to uncover, accept, and process the things that make you angry, there are a few things you can do to help yourself get a jump start on uncovering what you’ve not yet worked through.

Learn more as we move through what repressed anger is, how to spot it, what triggers feel like, and how to move through it.

Janice Q. submitted today’s Mindset Reset. She wrote: “I love these (Mindset Resets.) I’ve learned so much about my thought process. I was wondering if there were any questions I could ask myself to help check in and reset instead of just being a specific thing. Is there something more broad that could help me find that center?”

Have you ever heard the saying, “You’ve got to fall in love with yourself first?”

Many women reject this idea, but the truth is, the longest relationship you will have during your time on this earth is the relationship you have with yourself. Therefore, nurturing yourself is highly important, and if you want to have a life that is together, abundant, and truly in alignment, you must put yourself first.

This week we’re chatting about putting yourself in first position after receiving a question from Margaret in Austin, Texas about how to hold space for ourselves and not feel guilty!

Self-doubt is something we all experience. It doesn't matter what our background looks like, how good we are at something or lacking, self-doubt still has a way of finding its way in. Kendell wrote: “I'm dealing with self doubt. I know that I can get myself out of it, but it seems to keep coming back. I was hoping that you could provide some kind of information as to maybe a secret or a way to deal with self-doubt that is different than what I'm finding on Google.”

Today’s Mindset Reset leans understanding the hidden signs of anxiety—how they show up and may be impacting you.

Today’s Mindset Reset leans into self-boundaries and the steps to create them!

Today’s Mindset Reset leans into life lessons we gain as we age.

In today’s Mindset Reset, Lauren from South Carolina wrote, “Danielle, I’ve heard you talk about breaking everything down into facts when you are going through a hard situation. I believe you said it’s important to ask questions to find the facts, but honestly, I’m struggling with the questions! Maybe that sounds dumb, but I don’t know what to ask. I can come up with facts, but even then sometimes I feel like they aren’t facts. They are opinions or how I feel about the situation. Can you help me with the questions to make the process easier?”

Let me ask you a question I’ve been chasing the answer to for most of my life. Is there such a thing as broken people, or are there only broken moments?

Your answer may vary from the truth depending on where you are in your life, what you’ve experienced, and how you’ve processed what has been and what you believe will continue to occur.

Today, you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into redefining the idea of broken, and I’ll hand over something most of us are not taught, which is how to become comfortable with being uncomfortable. This is one conversation that shatters our traditional thinking and flips what you thought you needed to move forward on

In this week’s mindset reset, we look at shifting your thoughts toward what you want to create in 2024. It’s important to not look at goals, but instead look at the systems of what is working and what isn’t. Today’s mindset reset breaks it all down through a few fundamental questions to ask yourself.

Sometimes we all need gentle reminders. Reminders that tell us to feel differently than we are feeling at the moment. Reminders that breathe life into us and remind us there's nothing wrong with us. There may be wrong situations that are occurring in our lives, but we ourselves are not broken. These gentle reminders are the subject of today’s Mindset Reset.

Today’s Mindset Reset, Tiffany S wrote in and asked: “Danielle, I have heard you talk about the need to relinquish control and let go of the fight, but I’m not going to lie to you. Sometimes, I feel like doing so makes me a pushover or a doormat. I’m worried the people around me will abuse me because they know that I’m just going to let it go. I heard you also say that we want to get into a place where we’re surrendering, but again, that makes me feel like self-respect and self-love are not possible for me if I live in both spaces. Can you help explain—maybe I’m looking at it wrong?

We have emotions for a reason – they’re there to tell us something. Ignoring those feelings doesn’t make them go away. They will eventually surface, and if you wait too long before addressing them, you’ll likely find yourself dealing with a sudden flood of emotions. By processing them as they come up, you allow yourself to find a healthier mindset and keep that all-consuming feeling of being overwhelmed at bay.

Today, you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into overwhelm and the dreaded experience of forecasting—this comes up often during the holiday season, and we will stop it right now!

How would you rate your confidence from one to a ten—ten being your confidence is in everything you do, think, and feel, or a one with confidence being something you wish you could create but certainly do not have it?

Today's mindset reset is inspired by a continued conversation with Karmen L. We've been working on confidence. When we talk about confidence, often people think of this façade of being able to walk into a room and own it or not to question themselves or have doubts. No matter what you think, what you've been told, or how many times you've used your inner voice against you, that is not confidence. That is ego.

Today, we are breaking down the layers of confidence and providing evidence that you are more confident than you think!

Gratitude is more than practice. It is a true mindset, a lifestyle that impacts your mental health, relationships, and how you see and interact with the world around you. It truly is the secret sauce to everything that is good and keeps us moving forward in our lives.

So today, you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into gratitude. What it is, how it can be practiced, what it does to the brain and the nervous system, and how it can shift and mold the experiences that you have in your day-to-day. Grab a pen, and let’s shift into an attitude of gratitude.

In today’s Mindset Reset, Lauren from South Carolina wrote, “Danielle, I’ve heard you talk about breaking everything down into facts when you are going through a hard situation. I believe you said it’s important to ask questions to find the facts, but honestly, I’m struggling with the questions! Maybe that sounds dumb, but I don’t know what to ask. I can come up with facts, but even then sometimes I feel like they aren’t facts. They are opinions or how I feel about the situation. Can you help me with the questions to make the process easier?”

When you hear the word grief, does your mind immediately jump to the loss of a loved one?

Like joy, happiness, or even anger, grief is an emotion that is not limited to a single experience. Grief is a normal and natural emotional reaction to any change that finds you. Grief is about deep connection and the way you are processing.

Suppose you think about the many changes you’ve already experienced, whether from a job, a move, health, relationships, or whatever it may be. In that case, you may be able to see that you’ve experienced some level of grief at one time or another but may not realize that you are now using those experiences to your benefit.

Because of that, it's time we redefine grief, and learn to use it in a way that’s beneficial So, let’s take a one-on-one deep dive to do just that!

The word safety comes up so often, whether in private sessions or here on the podcast, and there's a reason for it because everything starts and ends with your ability to feel safe. When you don’t have it, you can spiral.

In today’s Mindset Reset, I am walking you through the understanding of what happens when you don’t feel safe. There’s a true downward mental action that occurs. When you see and witness it, you empower yourself to change it.