For many women, confidence is a moving target. It’s something they want but don’t feel they actively have.

To give you the proven steps to build unshakable confidence, I sat down with the queen of confidence building Jacqui Letran. In the next hour, she hands over the roadblocks we experience, the grounded steps to change your lack patterns, and then she walks us through an exercise that has radically changed thousands of women’s confidence levels in a way that can be activated today!

If you struggle with feeling worthy, good enough, or going after your desires, this conversation is step 1 in changing your inner dialogue.

Loving-kindness or Metta meditation is the ultimate form of generous, selfless love toward the self. This is a traditional meditation combined with new affirmations and self-kindness.

As it is said, hatred cannot coexist with love and kindness. It dissipates when supplanted with thoughts of love and compassion.

The longest relationship you will have during your time on this earth is the one you have with yourself. If the relationship does not reflect love, compassion, and kindness, you cannot reflect the same emotions and movements to those around you. What is happening within us is reflected out into the world through our actions and the way we show up. When out of balance, we find mirror relationships, experiences, and feelings, thus the importance of genuine loving-kindness.

We often forget that our lives are lived in moments, in the now. We allow yesterday to own us—find its ways into our thoughts, emotions, and actions. We bring forth broken pieces while we refuse to hold on to the good. When we are in the good, we easily concentrate on where we want to be—the goals, intentions, and the pieces that drive us forward while failing to remember that we need today to prosper.

The reality is each day is a teacher. Each moment has something for you inside of it. When we are unaware, focused on everything but the moment, we are likely to miss the magic in which is the key for our abundance, ability to thrive, the very opening of our purpose, courage, and highest, truest, most authentic, greatest self.

To fully claim your life, you must be IN your life. And your life is now.  

There are times in our lives when we find ourselves struggling, even fighting with our thoughts and emotions. In times of change or stagnation, we can feel as if nothing is happening for us, and everything is happening to us. These feelings can cause turmoil, which upsets our emotional and mental balance. When we become aware that a struggle is within us, we become disrupted and uncomfortable. Our instincts push against the unfamiliar, the unknown, as we roll around with the discomfort, adding a mentality of lack, stress, and anxiety.

You are a masterpiece of light, love, infinite beauty, and peace. This light is your energy, your soulful, most authentic self.

In this understanding, you can claim all that you are and honor your inner light that has helped you rise above darkness, hard times, and negativity. If you are not willing to give your very best, life is not going to offer much in return. Within each hour, day, week, and month, there is a time for everything. There is a time for letting go of self-destruction. There is a time for building and growing. There is a time for motion and rest. There is a time for wellness. There is always time for whatever is to be. That is if you make and take the time, and that begins with honoring your very being.

In every action, experience, in every being, there is something for which we can be grateful. In fact, did you know that genuine appreciation and the practice of such in our lives can facilitate healing within our mind, body, and spirit?

In today’s mindset reset, we are leaning into four quick and easy gratitude exercises that take only a few minutes each and have incredible results when practiced. Think about how much your day-to-day would shift if you took a moment to count your blessings instead of glazing over them.

Your mind is a wonderous place—a place of insight. It’s a place that has the power to serve you if you take the time to observe and notice the mental activity you give your attention to. When the mind gets lost in thought, you have the power to regain your focus, to shed light on the darkness, to offer yourself trust, and let go of negativity, anxiety, and leave overthinking where it belongs—outside of you. Checking in, going within the thought process gives you the power to be non-reactive to the thoughts that do not serve your life.

Life is filled with ups and downs, twists and turns, and moments where we are tested. But, as the saying goes, the only constant thing in life is change.

For today’s mindset reset, we are leaning into how to build resilience in our day-to-day lives.

Many of us struggle with bouncing back when hard things enter our lives. Unfortunately, most focus on the problem instead of what it will take to move forward or the strategies they have already used in the past. The truth is the problem is more with our focus and inner belief than anything. Yet, this would definitely be different if we had a resiliency plan.

Let these words ignite the goddess within you. The root of the word goddess means “bright” or “shine.” As women, we tend to underestimate our divine feminine power—at best, we ignore it; at worst, we demonize it. Yet, this light and power within is the energy that creates our life. We have always been meant to harness it, own it, and use it for our greatest good.

Your femininity is your divine superpower. In this moment, we are connecting with and to her, honoring her, and reminding ourselves that the light within us shall never be dimmed again. From now on, I am honoring my truths and affirming my power.

Stress comes in many forms, and too much stress, of any type, can feel overwhelming and all-consuming at times. It can even have us losing faith in ourselves and the world around us, because we all know that stress has a way of building to the point that even the simplest moments can become challenging and unmanageable, our health can be impacted, and it can even affect our relationships and our day-to-day happiness factor.

The truth is that your life is working in your favor; everything that has arrived has done so to teach, elevate, and move you where you need to be. In this understanding, you can claim yourself and this moment, today, piece-by-piece through every thought, feeling, and action you take. In witnessing this, you have the power to own the love story you came here to create—the unstoppable love story with and of the self. This starts by claiming your life through a new beginning.

We’re kicking off the first mini mindset reset with one of the topic situations I am most asked about: how to challenge negative thinking.

So, let’s jump right in.

If you practice this exercise consistently, you’ll be amazed by how automatic it will become to challenge your negative thoughts and negative thinking loops. This practice is excellent for dealing with anxiety, too. So, give yourself 15 minutes and give it a try before you begin to work it into your day-to-day life. It does take practice.

We live so much of our days outside of ourselves—engaging in what works for others, showing up, listening to opinions. We give our time and energy to those we love and want to see thrive. We prioritize things that do not fulfill us or make us happy. While serving others is a beautiful means of service, when our mental space is nearly always occupied, it’s challenging to check in with ourselves, give to ourselves, and fulfill our needs.

To do so, we must consciously and willing hold space for ourselves. Holding space is the ultimate act of self-acceptance, self-love, and worthiness.  

It’s time to allow yourself to remember your magic—the nuances, the subtle differences that make you, you. It’s time to own that magic, one beautiful experience and one trait at a time.  Whether you’ve forgotten or are just now meeting yourself for the first time, the truth is, you are inventive. You are transformative. You are capable of owning the life you came here to create. You are unstoppable, beautiful, and the very definition of strength.  

Let your mind and body find center. Actively and consciously releasing tension and allow my words to guide you into your truth—the truth that everything that happens within your life is happening for you, not to you—the truth that everything that comes your way is a teacher, good, bad, indifferent; it has shown up so that you have the skills, knowledge, and ability to meet yourself in the moment. To be presently aware and meet your needs.

With this truth, you must acknowledge that there will be times of imbalance, rollercoasters of emotional and mental discord, highs and lows, ripples of greatness, moments of perceived failure, even anxiety, and uncertainty.

In all of this, you must remember to surrender.

The past often works to own our present and our future because what has been gone unhealed and unaddressed. We tend to believe that if we simply move on, what was will fall away.

Yet, this thinking robs us of a beautiful opportunity and great expansion. The events in our lives are lessons, building blocks that teach us what we came here to learn, ways of being, our desires. Our experiences teach us contrast. It shows what we want and what we do not. In this understanding, we can go deeper and explore our needs spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically.

Today is a beautiful day to allow yourself to shine, slow down, and return to center. We tend to live life at a frantic, stressful pace. Where our to-do lists and obligations control the way we see ourselves and the possibilities before us. But when we are willing to accept there’s more for us is when we are released from the grip of our endless doing, from our unwillingness to slow, and it’s from here that we find a natural flow that provides us with room to imagine, to grow, and to thrive. It’s from here we allow ourselves to go within, to move any lack of light, and shine in all that we are.

By nature, you are soulfully beautiful. The combination of your qualities, emotional awareness, powerful thoughts, shape, color, form, the nuances that make you, you have created a beautiful soul. This lovely light shines no matter how those qualities have merged and mixed to create an outside and inner form. Your beauty is soul deep. It’s a shining, brilliant feeling that is your presence. And, that presence will never be dependent on aesthetics because beauty is in everything, and it lies within you, too.

You arrived in this world with a spark, a fiery ambition in your core, and motivation to live a defined set of purposes. When you align with your why, the world rearranges itself to offer you infinite possibilities. Yet, when you are out of alignment with your purpose, it works to arrange everything to bring you back—the hardships, the trails, roadblocks, detours, and attention-grabbers. All of which are designed to help guide you home, to guide you to your purpose. The truth is, you have the power to find your way to your purpose and into alignment by going within and listening to your inner voice.

Our lives are a testimony to our stories—to the lessons we’ve learned, the thoughts we’ve crafted into emotions and actions. Our lives are what we’ve created and attracted to us through all we have been and are working to become. I am a creator, and I am creating goodness not only for me but for the world at large.