Life is filled with ups and downs, twists and turns, and moments where we are tested. But, as the saying goes, the only constant thing in life is change.

For today’s mindset reset, we are leaning into how to build resilience in our day-to-day lives.

Many of us struggle with bouncing back when hard things enter our lives. Unfortunately, most focus on the problem instead of what it will take to move forward or the strategies they have already used in the past. The truth is the problem is more with our focus and inner belief than anything. Yet, this would definitely be different if we had a resiliency plan.

Do you feel things deeply? Have you ever been told you are too sensitive? Are you the peacemaker amongst your friends and family?

If so, you may be an empath. Being an empath is a superpower if you know how to use it to your advantage.

This week we are taking a one-on-one deep dive into what it means to be an empath, the top 15 signs that you are one, how to regulate your emotional and mental wellbeing from today forward, the brain science behind the empathic feeling, and lastly, we’ll chat about grounding and necessary practices you need to make your life work for you!

Let these words ignite the goddess within you. The root of the word goddess means “bright” or “shine.” As women, we tend to underestimate our divine feminine power—at best, we ignore it; at worst, we demonize it. Yet, this light and power within is the energy that creates our life. We have always been meant to harness it, own it, and use it for our greatest good.

Your femininity is your divine superpower. In this moment, we are connecting with and to her, honoring her, and reminding ourselves that the light within us shall never be dimmed again. From now on, I am honoring my truths and affirming my power.

Stress comes in many forms, and too much stress, of any type, can feel overwhelming and all-consuming at times. It can even have us losing faith in ourselves and the world around us, because we all know that stress has a way of building to the point that even the simplest moments can become challenging and unmanageable, our health can be impacted, and it can even affect our relationships and our day-to-day happiness factor.

Are you moving through something big right now? You are not alone! However, we often think we are when we move through significant moments. In this space, we struggle to let go of what is no longer serving us because fear and guilt trump our needs and our perceived worthiness to have a grounded, healthy, and happy life.

And thanks to fear, many believe that letting go is impossible, traumatic, or downright impossible. This week we are doing just that through a one-on-one deep dive into the shadow side of healing. We’re entering a space where we consciously create a path for our deepest desires, the self-awareness process, and learning how to let go of people and relationships, heavy emotions and trauma, attachment, and the obstacles that stand in our way.

The truth is that your life is working in your favor; everything that has arrived has done so to teach, elevate, and move you where you need to be. In this understanding, you can claim yourself and this moment, today, piece-by-piece through every thought, feeling, and action you take. In witnessing this, you have the power to own the love story you came here to create—the unstoppable love story with and of the self. This starts by claiming your life through a new beginning.

We’re kicking off the first mini mindset reset with one of the topic situations I am most asked about: how to challenge negative thinking.

So, let’s jump right in.

If you practice this exercise consistently, you’ll be amazed by how automatic it will become to challenge your negative thoughts and negative thinking loops. This practice is excellent for dealing with anxiety, too. So, give yourself 15 minutes and give it a try before you begin to work it into your day-to-day life. It does take practice.

When was the last time you listened to your inner conversation? Is it serving you, or does it take you down? Most women struggle with their inner critic and tend to beat themselves up. Is this you? If so, there’s one essential life practice that can silence the inner critic, help you release the need to trash yourself and your worth, and is the ultimate foundation of self-love.

What is it? It’s self-empathy.

While you may be familiar with having empathy for others, turning this practice inward changes the inner conversation and opens the door to cultivating inner peace, happiness, and gives you the courage to be the woman who loves themselves fiercely.

We live so much of our days outside of ourselves—engaging in what works for others, showing up, listening to opinions. We give our time and energy to those we love and want to see thrive. We prioritize things that do not fulfill us or make us happy. While serving others is a beautiful means of service, when our mental space is nearly always occupied, it’s challenging to check in with ourselves, give to ourselves, and fulfill our needs.

To do so, we must consciously and willing hold space for ourselves. Holding space is the ultimate act of self-acceptance, self-love, and worthiness.  

Do negative thoughts trip you up?

There’s not a single person who isn’t impacted by negative thoughts at some point in their lives, if not in their daily lives. Unfortunately, many do not realize that negative thought loops can swiftly destroy their mood, rock their confidence, and erode their self-esteem after mere weeks of practicing thoughts that do not serve them.  

If we want to get our lives together, we must learn to embrace the opportunity to shift out of old pattern thinking. If old patterns and limiting beliefs are not the issues, we must examine whether we have a negativity addiction. Regardless of why, when we are open to the possibility of change, we can literally change our lives by changing our minds with daily practice.

It’s time to allow yourself to remember your magic—the nuances, the subtle differences that make you, you. It’s time to own that magic, one beautiful experience and one trait at a time.  Whether you’ve forgotten or are just now meeting yourself for the first time, the truth is, you are inventive. You are transformative. You are capable of owning the life you came here to create. You are unstoppable, beautiful, and the very definition of strength.  

Is your life owning you or do you own it? Big question, right?

After years of studying our experiences, emotions, and behaviors, there’s one thing that I know with absolute certainty and clarity, our personal history, our stories, have incredible, therapeutic healing power.

The problem is most of us do not use this power to our advantage. There is a tool that each of us has access to that is self-directed and requires nothing more than your thoughts, a pen, and a piece of paper.

Let your mind and body find center. Actively and consciously releasing tension and allow my words to guide you into your truth—the truth that everything that happens within your life is happening for you, not to you—the truth that everything that comes your way is a teacher, good, bad, indifferent; it has shown up so that you have the skills, knowledge, and ability to meet yourself in the moment. To be presently aware and meet your needs.

With this truth, you must acknowledge that there will be times of imbalance, rollercoasters of emotional and mental discord, highs and lows, ripples of greatness, moments of perceived failure, even anxiety, and uncertainty.

In all of this, you must remember to surrender.

When was the last time you took a full, deep breath?

I bet it’s been a while, and to be honest, you are not alone! Breathing is a vital part of life, yet most of us underestimate how a simple inhale and exhale can dramatically shift what is happening within. The shift is so significant it’s safe to say that proper, deep, therapeutic breathwork is the most potent and influential function your body has when it comes to regulating your nervous system, thought patterns, and bringing your mind, body, and spirit connection into alignment. The best part is that this ability is already within you and accessible. With such a great tool already at your fingertips, it’s time to use it to your benefit.

The past often works to own our present and our future because what has been gone unhealed and unaddressed. We tend to believe that if we simply move on, what was will fall away.

Yet, this thinking robs us of a beautiful opportunity and great expansion. The events in our lives are lessons, building blocks that teach us what we came here to learn, ways of being, our desires. Our experiences teach us contrast. It shows what we want and what we do not. In this understanding, we can go deeper and explore our needs spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically.

Today is a beautiful day to allow yourself to shine, slow down, and return to center. We tend to live life at a frantic, stressful pace. Where our to-do lists and obligations control the way we see ourselves and the possibilities before us. But when we are willing to accept there’s more for us is when we are released from the grip of our endless doing, from our unwillingness to slow, and it’s from here that we find a natural flow that provides us with room to imagine, to grow, and to thrive. It’s from here we allow ourselves to go within, to move any lack of light, and shine in all that we are.

By nature, you are soulfully beautiful. The combination of your qualities, emotional awareness, powerful thoughts, shape, color, form, the nuances that make you, you have created a beautiful soul. This lovely light shines no matter how those qualities have merged and mixed to create an outside and inner form. Your beauty is soul deep. It’s a shining, brilliant feeling that is your presence. And, that presence will never be dependent on aesthetics because beauty is in everything, and it lies within you, too.

You arrived in this world with a spark, a fiery ambition in your core, and motivation to live a defined set of purposes. When you align with your why, the world rearranges itself to offer you infinite possibilities. Yet, when you are out of alignment with your purpose, it works to arrange everything to bring you back—the hardships, the trails, roadblocks, detours, and attention-grabbers. All of which are designed to help guide you home, to guide you to your purpose. The truth is, you have the power to find your way to your purpose and into alignment by going within and listening to your inner voice.

Our lives are a testimony to our stories—to the lessons we’ve learned, the thoughts we’ve crafted into emotions and actions. Our lives are what we’ve created and attracted to us through all we have been and are working to become. I am a creator, and I am creating goodness not only for me but for the world at large.

I am an instrument of joy. I see the beauty of it, the pleasure of it, the bliss, happiness, delight, and thrill that it weaves throughout my life, even during times that are not joyful or developed in joyful circumstances. Because of this, I am no longer waiting for the next day, the next event, the next moment to come. Instead, I am guiding myself, my mind, emotions, and actions into enjoying what is, in the here and now, in each and every second, minute, and hour. In doing so, I realize that joy is always available to me because it is me.