Your mind is a thought machine. Your emotions are its support system. They work together to create action. And yet, no matter what you’ve thought in the past or even uttered, the phrase and thought pattern of “It is what it is” is both flat wrong and oddly true, all at the same time!

Now, let’s get to it. Bonnie from Seattle, Washington, wrote, "Danielle, I am hoping you can help me. My partner and I were having a conversation about not being where we want to be just yet. He has a different mindset than I do. He is much more relaxed and I am much more focused on getting to the next level. He says I’m missing the journey. I say that cliché. Is it really that important to celebrate the small stuff? I know you talk about being present, intentional, and mindful, but does all that stuff really make a difference? I think I’m asking you to convince me I’m right and he is wrong. Is that bad?”

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Welcome to this guided meditation to increase abundance and prosperity.

When we think of prosperity, it often comes through the mindset of hope. We hope to have abundance; we hope to be successful. We hope to create prosperity in the five master areas of our life: emotionally, mentally, spiritually, physically, and financially.

Your brain is a marvelous place that is capable of so much. It absorbs moments and memories, new information, and fuels creativity and desire; it’s a place of pattern and evidence.

And yet, it knows no difference between positive and negative. It takes what you feed it and uses it as instructed…

Welcome to Pause & Affirm! This quick, upbeat hit of inspiration is meant to remind you of your greatness, inner light, and peace! This quick hit of inspiration is meant to remind you of your greatness, inner light, and peace!

TAKE A MOMENT TO RELAX AND ALLOW THESE WORDS TO SETTLE IN YOUR MIND, HEART, AND SOUL.

Most of us experience times in our lives when we don’t feel good enough. We struggle with ourselves and wonder why life seems so much easier for everyone else.

Carolina F from Dayton, Ohio, wrote: “Danielle, I wish I could express how much I’ve learned from listening to your podcast. What I’m writing about is the one place that I can find myself back sliding into, which is the feeling of not feeling good enough. What do you suggest that we all have this thought in our heads to get out of it? Thanks for the work you do.” st is helping you get your life together! I love that you are already experiencing a difference, and to answer your question: yes! There are roughly seven key areas that have dynamic impacts on us. And you’ve already hit on one—sleep! So, let’s jump in and chat about those things. And there is good news for everyone, these impacts are some of the easiest things to change!

Welcome to Pause & Affirm! This quick, upbeat hit of inspiration is meant to remind you of your greatness, inner light, and peace! This quick hit of inspiration is meant to remind you of your greatness, inner light, and peace!

TAKE A MOMENT TO RELAX AND ALLOW THESE WORDS TO SETTLE IN YOUR MIND, HEART, AND SOUL.

Welcome to this guided, active, healing meditation. This is a space to gain clarity and a sense of what is available to you at any time, in any space, through witnessing what is happening within.

In the darkness, we falter; in the light, we arrive, we find ourselves, and we mindfully cultivate appreciation, compassion, and self-love. The light is waiting.

Gently settle in, finding a sense of peace as you connect with yourself. If your mind is busy, invite your thoughts to settle by placing anything that is not needed at this moment inside a temporary box in your mind’s eye. Whatever is placed in there will be available when you are finished. Because they are being held for you in safekeeping,  there’s no need to rush now. Simply free yourself to find stillness. If your eyes are not already closed, please close them now.

Welcome to Pause & Affirm! This quick, upbeat hit of inspiration is meant to remind you of your greatness, inner light, and peace! This quick hit of inspiration is meant to remind you of your greatness, inner light, and peace!

TAKE A MOMENT TO RELAX AND ALLOW THESE WORDS TO SETTLE IN YOUR MIND, HEART, AND SOUL.

Our habits have a way of defining our lives. What we don’t do is often as important as what we do.

This week’s question comes from Ash Moore in New York City, NY. She wrote in and said, “Hi, Danielle. I’ve been listening to your podcast religiously for six months now. I take notes and do my best to put what you teach into place in my life. I’ve had great success in many ways over those last six months. I feel happier. I can tell the difference in my attitude. My thoughts are clearer, and my emotions are much better. But, I’ve been thinking about all the things I shouldn’t do that could be impacting my physical, emotional, and mental health. I know not getting enough rest, at least for me, is one that I struggle with. That has led me to ask, “Are there habits that impact us that we should watch out for or should be quickly changing?”

Welcome to Pause & Affirm! This quick, upbeat hit of inspiration is meant to remind you of your greatness, inner light, and peace! This quick hit of inspiration is meant to remind you of your greatness, inner light, and peace!

TAKE A MOMENT TO RELAX AND ALLOW THESE WORDS TO SETTLE IN YOUR MIND, HEART, AND SOUL.

Welcome to this active, guided meditation. This is a space we are not trying to solve any problems; instead, this is a space of release, calm, and building your self-love.

Please settle in now, finding a comfortable position as you relax your shoulders down your spine. With slow and steady breath, open your mouth, moving your jaw up and down, and letting go of any tension. Gently move your head from side to side while softening into the moment.

As you settle, deepen your breath, inhaling through your nose, allowing your breath to find the bottom of your lungs, and softly release it through your nose with a slow and steady exhale. Continue to breathe with both ease and effort.

Welcome to Pause & Affirm! This quick, upbeat hit of inspiration is meant to remind you of your greatness, inner light, and peace! This quick hit of inspiration is meant to remind you of your greatness, inner light, and peace!

TAKE A MOMENT TO RELAX AND ALLOW THESE WORDS TO SETTLE IN YOUR MIND, HEART, AND SOUL.

Happiness goes by many names for each of us. Some call things, possessions, happiness. Some call happiness travel and adventure happiness. Some find happiness in stillness and being in a state of peace. Whatever you call happiness, there’s always room to increase your happiness, especially when it comes to the small habits you do each day that may impact your overall happiness.

If you receive the Get Your Life Together, Girl newsletter each Tuesday morning, you may have seen today’s mindset reset as the tool of the week! Today, we’re taking it a bit further and expanding upon it. It seems fitting to talk about how our habits run against our happiness because I’ve received many questions about genuine happiness and how to be happier in the last few weeks.

So, that’s what you’re diving into in today’s mindset reset.

Welcome to Pause & Affirm! This quick, upbeat hit of inspiration is meant to remind you of your greatness, inner light, and peace! This quick hit of inspiration is meant to remind you of your greatness, inner light, and peace!

TAKE A MOMENT TO RELAX AND ALLOW THESE WORDS TO SETTLE IN YOUR MIND, HEART, AND SOUL.

The past often works to own our present and our future because what has been gone unhealed and unaddressed. We tend to believe that if we simply move on, what was will fall away.

Yet, this thinking robs us of a beautiful opportunity and great expansion. The events in our lives are lessons, building blocks that teach us what we came here to learn, ways of being, our desires. Our experiences teach us contrast. It shows what we want and what we do not. In this understanding, we can go deeper and explore our needs spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically.

Welcome to Pause & Affirm! This quick, upbeat hit of inspiration is meant to remind you of your greatness, inner light, and peace! This quick hit of inspiration is meant to remind you of your greatness, inner light, and peace!

TAKE A MOMENT TO RELAX AND ALLOW THESE WORDS TO SETTLE IN YOUR MIND, HEART, AND SOUL.

In everything, there is something for you. This simple sentence is quite powerful as it reminds us that no matter what finds us, we can use it to our advantage.

Today’s mindset reset question comes from Georgia in Memphis, Tennessee. She wrote in and said, “Danielle, I am actively working on my mindset. I realized a few months ago that I have spent a lot of my life living through a negative mindset. Something was always wrong. I never felt like good things could or would happen to me. And, drama seems to follow me no matter where I go. I want to change it, but when I looked up what a growth mindset after listening to one of your podcasts I became confused. There’s so much information out there. I thought maybe you could make it simpler and perhaps offer a simple exercise that will help me get into a growth mindset.o, spill it!”

Welcome to Pause & Affirm! This quick, upbeat hit of inspiration is meant to remind you of your greatness, inner light, and peace! This quick hit of inspiration is meant to remind you of your greatness, inner light, and peace!

TAKE A MOMENT TO RELAX AND ALLOW THESE WORDS TO SETTLE IN YOUR MIND, HEART, AND SOUL.

Welcome to taming shame, a guided, interactive healing meditation to gently connect with yourself and let go so you may live within true harmony and self-acceptance.

Shame is an unpleasant self-conscious emotion often found through negative self-evaluation. Its inner workings cause you pain, distrust, powerlessness, and worthlessness. It causes us to hide and tell ourselves we are flawed. Shame is attached to your identity and how you see yourself. It asks us to validate insecurities, these feelings of lack, but we can tame shame and find our truth—that you are and have always been meant to live a life rooted in grace, inspiration, and ownership.

There’s a dirty side to growth. There’s a dirty side to choosing yourself that many of us refuse to witness and discuss. The dirty side is that once we begin to prioritize ourselves, relationships change, even the ones we thought would last forever. When we focus on ourselves, we naturally see what works and what doesn’t. From there, another natural process begins—boundaries are put into place. This can turn our relationships on their heads.

That’s why we are taking a one-on-one deep dive into the dirty side of growth: what it is, how it impacts us, and how to stop it right now!

So, let’s dive right in.