Sometimes we all need gentle reminders. Reminders that tell us to feel differently than we are feeling at the moment. Reminders that breathe life into us and remind us there's nothing wrong with us. There may be wrong situations that are occurring in our lives, but we ourselves are not broken. These gentle reminders are the subject of today’s Mindset Reset.

Today’s Mindset Reset, Tiffany S wrote in and asked: “Danielle, I have heard you talk about the need to relinquish control and let go of the fight, but I’m not going to lie to you. Sometimes, I feel like doing so makes me a pushover or a doormat. I’m worried the people around me will abuse me because they know that I’m just going to let it go. I heard you also say that we want to get into a place where we’re surrendering, but again, that makes me feel like self-respect and self-love are not possible for me if I live in both spaces. Can you help explain—maybe I’m looking at it wrong?

When was the last time you listened to your inner conversation? Is it serving you, or does it take you down? Most women struggle with their inner critic and tend to beat themselves up. Is this you? If so, there’s one essential life practice that can silence the inner critic, help you release the need to trash yourself and your worth, and is the ultimate foundation of self-love.

What is it? It’s self-empathy.

While you may be familiar with having empathy for others, turning this practice inward changes the inner conversation and opens the door to cultivating inner peace, happiness, and gives you the courage to be the woman who loves themselves fiercely.

In the years I’ve worked with women, one concept continually comes up. For some, it’s taboo. For others, there’s a deep curiosity and desire to understand how it works. For another group, there’s complete dismissal. No matter where you stand, you are likely using this principle in your daily life without even realizing it. What is it? It’s the Law of Attraction.

Maybe you’re scratching your head as to how behavioral therapy and the Law of Attraction have any connection, which is fair, so today, we’re taking a one-on-one deep dive into this universal principle that is the basis of everything I teach—what you focus grows.

We all want to be liked and loved—it’s a natural part of our desire and need for human connection. In fact, from the moment we are born, we begin seeking connection. However, while this desire is innate, there can be a tipping point where being liked and loved turns into seeking approval and validation through the assurance of others.

This kind of connection seeking is a hallmark trait of people-pleasing.

If you have spent any time working toward personal growth or have read any personal development books you have likely heard the term “limiting beliefs.” While the conversation around limiting beliefs seems to be the “it” topic right now, many do not go deep enough into these psychological defense mechanisms to explain what they are, let alone where they come from.

Today, we’re taking a one-on-one deep dive into how limiting beliefs negatively impact your life, how we trick our brains into believing our limits are keeping us safe, and I’ll walk you step-by-step into identifying your limiting beliefs, and most importantly how to shatter them and ultimately eradicate them from your life!

This week we are taking a one-on-one deep dive into a practice that allows us to do just that. What is it? It’s meditation.

This isn’t your typical conversation about breathing and quieting the mind. Instead, we’re taking a journey through the science and benefits, breaking down meditation myths, and I’ll hand over what most people do wrong when they practice. This is one conversation that gives you the tools to use your mind to your greatest benefit.

Do you feel things deeply? Have you ever been told you are too sensitive? Are you the peacemaker amongst your friends and family?

If so, you may be an empath. Being an empath is a superpower if you know how to use it to your advantage.

This week we are taking a one-on-one deep dive into what it means to be an empath, the top 15 signs that you are one, how to regulate your emotional and mental wellbeing from today forward, the brain science behind the empathic feeling, and lastly, we’ll chat about grounding and necessary practices you need to make your life work for you!

Are you moving through something big right now? You are not alone! However, we often think we are when we move through significant moments. In this space, we struggle to let go of what is no longer serving us because fear and guilt trump our needs and our perceived worthiness to have a grounded, healthy, and happy life.

And thanks to fear, many believe that letting go is impossible, traumatic, or downright impossible. This week we are doing just that through a one-on-one deep dive into the shadow side of healing. We’re entering a space where we consciously create a path for our deepest desires, the self-awareness process, and learning how to let go of people and relationships, heavy emotions and trauma, attachment, and the obstacles that stand in our way.

When was the last time you listened to your inner conversation? Is it serving you, or does it take you down? Most women struggle with their inner critic and tend to beat themselves up. Is this you? If so, there’s one essential life practice that can silence the inner critic, help you release the need to trash yourself and your worth, and is the ultimate foundation of self-love.

What is it? It’s self-empathy.

While you may be familiar with having empathy for others, turning this practice inward changes the inner conversation and opens the door to cultivating inner peace, happiness, and gives you the courage to be the woman who loves themselves fiercely.

Do negative thoughts trip you up?

There’s not a single person who isn’t impacted by negative thoughts at some point in their lives, if not in their daily lives. Unfortunately, many do not realize that negative thought loops can swiftly destroy their mood, rock their confidence, and erode their self-esteem after mere weeks of practicing thoughts that do not serve them.  

If we want to get our lives together, we must learn to embrace the opportunity to shift out of old pattern thinking. If old patterns and limiting beliefs are not the issues, we must examine whether we have a negativity addiction. Regardless of why, when we are open to the possibility of change, we can literally change our lives by changing our minds with daily practice.

Is your life owning you or do you own it? Big question, right?

After years of studying our experiences, emotions, and behaviors, there’s one thing that I know with absolute certainty and clarity, our personal history, our stories, have incredible, therapeutic healing power.

The problem is most of us do not use this power to our advantage. There is a tool that each of us has access to that is self-directed and requires nothing more than your thoughts, a pen, and a piece of paper.

When was the last time you took a full, deep breath?

I bet it’s been a while, and to be honest, you are not alone! Breathing is a vital part of life, yet most of us underestimate how a simple inhale and exhale can dramatically shift what is happening within. The shift is so significant it’s safe to say that proper, deep, therapeutic breathwork is the most potent and influential function your body has when it comes to regulating your nervous system, thought patterns, and bringing your mind, body, and spirit connection into alignment. The best part is that this ability is already within you and accessible. With such a great tool already at your fingertips, it’s time to use it to your benefit.

Ladies, it’s time to revolutionize our thoughts around physical health! Let me ask you a question: do you understand the inner workings of your body? As in, the natural rhythm of your hormones or even the daily and monthly cycles? How about how many calories you should intake or even when you should actually be eating? How about what it takes to sustain your energy and keep your weight in check? With so much noise and the “do this, not that” culture, it’s time to break down factual, honest answers to reach our ultimate health. In this week’s episode, we do just that with Registered Dietitian Victoria Coglianese.

Life is best lived when in balance, but for most women, achieving balance is the equivalent of walking a tightrope without a safety net underneath—it’s tricky at best and, for many, a definite struggle. This is especially true for working mothers. In this week’s episode, we take on our relationship with work and family while trying to achieve and be quote “good enough mothers” with retired neonatologist Dr. Susan Landers. She walks us through the lessons she learned about work/life balance as a high-achieving physician. Those lessons have now been parlayed into a mission to educate women to show up as their best selves, be present, and own their accomplishments as wives, mothers, and career-driven women.

In this week’s episode, we take on our relationship with food in a deep dive conversation with nutritional, IBS, anxiety, and gut expert Laura Patricia Martin. After all, ’tis the season to overindulgence, leaning into an imbalanced mindset of eating, and of course, we are just weeks away from setting those New Year’s fitness resolutions.