This week we’re doing something a bit different. Life coach Rachel Varitimos from the ‎A to B With Rachel V.  podcast invited me on her show to talk about the long-term impact of negative thoughts and negative thought cycles. The conversation was so good that I had to share it with you. Together, Rachel and I uncover how your thoughts can own you, how to overcome anxiety produced by your thoughts, especially social anxiety, and how to discover your gifts by healing trauma and changing the thought cycle. Because, let’s face it, our thoughts can either support or break us, and without a solid thought foundation, the path to inner peace and self-love is an uphill, impossible battle. The next hour is meant to inspire you to take action to embody your greatest life and hand over the blueprint to ultimate self-love and inner peace.

A misconception about loving ourselves has been touted by self-proclaimed personal development gurus that is dead wrong. Many believe that self-love is a one-off thing that we are “supposed to do.” Yet, the truth is that self-love is the result of healing, growth, and putting all the pieces of greatest selves into place. So, loving ourselves isn’t a “thing” we are supposed to do; it is “THE” thing that is the evidence of our growth.

This week we are taking a one-on-one deep dive into an essential life practice that must be in place for us to reach self-love.

What is it? It’s self-trust.

Do you ever feel like you are a different person to different people in your life? Do some people see one side of you while others do not? Or, do you ever feel like you struggle to express yourself fully? Maybe you knowingly hide behind who you truly are deep inside? If so, you are not fully engaging with and living through your most authentic self.

This week we’re taking a one-on-one deep dive into authenticity.

In the years I’ve worked with women, one concept continually comes up. For some, it’s taboo. For others, there’s a deep curiosity and desire to understand how it works. For another group, there’s complete dismissal. No matter where you stand, you are likely using this principle in your daily life without even realizing it. What is it? It’s the Law of Attraction.

Maybe you’re scratching your head as to how behavioral therapy and the Law of Attraction have any connection, which is fair, so today, we’re taking a one-on-one deep dive into this universal principle that is the basis of everything I teach—what you focus grows.

We all want to be liked and loved—it’s a natural part of our desire and need for human connection. In fact, from the moment we are born, we begin seeking connection. However, while this desire is innate, there can be a tipping point where being liked and loved turns into seeking approval and validation through the assurance of others.

This kind of connection seeking is a hallmark trait of people-pleasing.

If you have spent any time working toward personal growth or have read any personal development books you have likely heard the term “limiting beliefs.” While the conversation around limiting beliefs seems to be the “it” topic right now, many do not go deep enough into these psychological defense mechanisms to explain what they are, let alone where they come from.

Today, we’re taking a one-on-one deep dive into how limiting beliefs negatively impact your life, how we trick our brains into believing our limits are keeping us safe, and I’ll walk you step-by-step into identifying your limiting beliefs, and most importantly how to shatter them and ultimately eradicate them from your life!

This week we are taking a one-on-one deep dive into a practice that allows us to do just that. What is it? It’s meditation.

This isn’t your typical conversation about breathing and quieting the mind. Instead, we’re taking a journey through the science and benefits, breaking down meditation myths, and I’ll hand over what most people do wrong when they practice. This is one conversation that gives you the tools to use your mind to your greatest benefit.

Do you feel things deeply? Have you ever been told you are too sensitive? Are you the peacemaker amongst your friends and family?

If so, you may be an empath. Being an empath is a superpower if you know how to use it to your advantage.

This week we are taking a one-on-one deep dive into what it means to be an empath, the top 15 signs that you are one, how to regulate your emotional and mental wellbeing from today forward, the brain science behind the empathic feeling, and lastly, we’ll chat about grounding and necessary practices you need to make your life work for you!

Are you moving through something big right now? You are not alone! However, we often think we are when we move through significant moments. In this space, we struggle to let go of what is no longer serving us because fear and guilt trump our needs and our perceived worthiness to have a grounded, healthy, and happy life.

And thanks to fear, many believe that letting go is impossible, traumatic, or downright impossible. This week we are doing just that through a one-on-one deep dive into the shadow side of healing. We’re entering a space where we consciously create a path for our deepest desires, the self-awareness process, and learning how to let go of people and relationships, heavy emotions and trauma, attachment, and the obstacles that stand in our way.

When was the last time you listened to your inner conversation? Is it serving you, or does it take you down? Most women struggle with their inner critic and tend to beat themselves up. Is this you? If so, there’s one essential life practice that can silence the inner critic, help you release the need to trash yourself and your worth, and is the ultimate foundation of self-love.

What is it? It’s self-empathy.

While you may be familiar with having empathy for others, turning this practice inward changes the inner conversation and opens the door to cultivating inner peace, happiness, and gives you the courage to be the woman who loves themselves fiercely.

Do negative thoughts trip you up?

There’s not a single person who isn’t impacted by negative thoughts at some point in their lives, if not in their daily lives. Unfortunately, many do not realize that negative thought loops can swiftly destroy their mood, rock their confidence, and erode their self-esteem after mere weeks of practicing thoughts that do not serve them.  

If we want to get our lives together, we must learn to embrace the opportunity to shift out of old pattern thinking. If old patterns and limiting beliefs are not the issues, we must examine whether we have a negativity addiction. Regardless of why, when we are open to the possibility of change, we can literally change our lives by changing our minds with daily practice.

Is your life owning you or do you own it? Big question, right?

After years of studying our experiences, emotions, and behaviors, there’s one thing that I know with absolute certainty and clarity, our personal history, our stories, have incredible, therapeutic healing power.

The problem is most of us do not use this power to our advantage. There is a tool that each of us has access to that is self-directed and requires nothing more than your thoughts, a pen, and a piece of paper.

When was the last time you took a full, deep breath?

I bet it’s been a while, and to be honest, you are not alone! Breathing is a vital part of life, yet most of us underestimate how a simple inhale and exhale can dramatically shift what is happening within. The shift is so significant it’s safe to say that proper, deep, therapeutic breathwork is the most potent and influential function your body has when it comes to regulating your nervous system, thought patterns, and bringing your mind, body, and spirit connection into alignment. The best part is that this ability is already within you and accessible. With such a great tool already at your fingertips, it’s time to use it to your benefit.

Do you know what love language you speak?

Do you know how you like to have your needs, emotional connectivity, and love style met?

Many understand that there is an unwritten communication of receiving, giving, and feeling love, but often how we express and expect love in return is lost in translation. This week, we’re breaking down the importance of love languages, the different types, recognizing your partner’s language, and we’ll connect the dots to asking for more when we’re not on the same page with our partners. Ultimately, if we understand our love language, we can strengthen all forms of communication, which results in happier, healthy, and far more grounded and productive relationships.

How would you rate your relationships? Would you say they are stable, safe, and grounded in true connectivity? Whether it’s the relationship with a spouse or partner, family, or even friends, there’s one element needed for our relationships to thrive. What is it? It’s emotional safety and security. Yet, most don’t realize there are grounded, actual steps needed to create trust-filled relationships with those we are closest. This week we’re diving into connectivity, what it takes to create an emotional safety net, and we’ll examine the small habits that have the power to shift any relationship from surviving to absolute thriving.

Do you struggle with procrastination? What about the lack of motivation? So many do and even identify as procrastinators. This belief can overrun our lives! It can even cause higher levels of stress, anxiety, fear, and a host of other negative feelings. This week we are taking a different approach to procrastination as we examine what these habits are at their roots and how our mindset and thinking patterns are the true culprits. From there, we’re brain hacking our way out of our full stops and onto the path of true motivation in this week’s one-on-one deep dive.

There’s one statement that can disrupt our lives and growth more than any other set of words out there! What is it? “I AM STUCK!” Those words are often the most significant barrier to our success, feeling our best, and creating positive action; they are the mental and emotional wall that halts most things! So, this week, we are ripping off the label of stuck, taking a hard look at how we often go looking for failure without realizing it, and how we must push ourselves out of our comfort zone to grow and have full life ownership.

So, let’s shift our perspectives and our ability to become un-stuck.

It’s that time of year again where we begin to shift into the new year and begin to put pen to paper as to what we’d like to create. Last week we ripped back the veil of personal permission in order to move our mindset into that desire in part-one of this two-part series to enhance our overall quality of life. If you listened last week, you’ve come to understand that permission is the foundation to creating our highest and greatest intentions. This week, we’re pulling everything together in part-two where we take a one-on-one deep dive into the exact strategies you can use to create achievable, permission-based goals and intentions—outside of the typical resolutions, that often fall short, fizzle out, and rarely come to fruition. If there has ever been a time to spark a new phase of growth, accomplishment, and shift your focus into enhancing your overall quality of life…now is it!

As we begin to close any year, it’s natural to move our mindset into what we desire to create for ourselves in the next 365 days. After all, that is why we set intentions, resolutions, and goals, but there’s one factor that must come first—a factor that most people bypass and then stand back and can’t figure out why life never seems to work out for them. What is this factor? It’s permission—it’s making affirmative, action-based choices that allow us to move into our highest and greatest intentions.

How many times have you uttered the words, “I am not good enough?” Unfortunately, for many, it’s too many times to count. So, this week, we are taking a one-on-one deep dive into shifting our mindset around how we devalue ourselves and our worth. Whether we realize it or not, our self-talk, belittling ourselves, and buying into other people’s opinions have the power to break our connection to our worthiness and how we show up in the world. This is one behavior that has real-life consequences.