Your thoughts are powerful. They create your reality, but if your thoughts are not based on truth, the reality you create is off-balanced and holding you back.

This week we’re taking a one-on-one deep dive into examining the common lies we tell ourselves, why these powerful misdirectors show up in our lives, how they run against our ability to love ourselves fully, and how to break up with these mistruths once and for all.

The road to self-love often comes with both endings and new beginnings. Yet, the ends tend to undo us and make us doubt our worth, abilities, and self-esteem, especially when talking about our most intimate relationships.

In continuing our search for building self-love, I sat down with my friend, Laura Patricia Martin, the host of the Happy and Healing Podcast, as she and I moved through what it takes to have full ownership of ourselves, self-love, steady relationships, and then we leaned into the important of self-inquiry.

Let me ask you a question: What do you see when you stand in the mirror? Do you like the way you look? Do you immediately notice your perceived flaws and begin to feel upset with what is before you?

Body image is not merely superficial. It can be so intense that it dysregulates your emotional well-being and mental and physical health, while it creates a storm so big that you struggle to find balance, self-love, and inner peace.

We are taking a one-on-one deep dive into loving ourselves from the outside in! First, we’re unpacking the one mistake most women make when loving their physical form, and it’s different than you might think. And then, we’ll talk about how to change your relationship with yourself so that you can elevate your life.

Have you ever asked yourself, “Why am I here?” “What is my purpose?” Or worse, “How did I get here?!”

Not knowing your purpose or how your life has been molded into something you cannot recognize as yours directly challenges self-love, inner peace, and overall life fulfillment. The trust is taking steps, no matter how small, to live in alignment with our soul’s purpose can drastically change our inner and outer world in ways we can’t even imagine.

To go a step further, to get your life together, you must know what you want and where you’ve been. That’s why I sat down with soul-centered mentor Clarie Campagna to talk about the long-term impact of feeling stuck and uncertain of your life’s path and how each of us can start to identify our needs, passions, and ultimate purpose.

Every day we have an opportunity to start over—to dig our heels in, extract what is working in our lives and give ourselves permission to release what is not. As simple as that sounds, the radical act of starting over is far more entitled and can be paralyzing for some. Yet, no matter how many roadblocks we put in place or experience in our lives, the truth is: that each of us has the power to start over and begin again, no matter our circumstances, our age, or any other excuse we may use to keep ourselves trapped in the small boxes we were never meant to live within.

This week we’re taking a one-on-one deep dive into starting over, how we must confront what makes us uncomfortable, we’ll move through a plan on how to start over in a grounded, centered, and mindful way, and then we’ll uncover how starting over leads us into self-love and inner peace in ways we never thought were possible.

This week we’re doing something a bit different. Life coach Rachel Varitimos from the ‎A to B With Rachel V.  podcast invited me on her show to talk about the long-term impact of negative thoughts and negative thought cycles. The conversation was so good that I had to share it with you. Together, Rachel and I uncover how your thoughts can own you, how to overcome anxiety produced by your thoughts, especially social anxiety, and how to discover your gifts by healing trauma and changing the thought cycle. Because, let’s face it, our thoughts can either support or break us, and without a solid thought foundation, the path to inner peace and self-love is an uphill, impossible battle. The next hour is meant to inspire you to take action to embody your greatest life and hand over the blueprint to ultimate self-love and inner peace.

A misconception about loving ourselves has been touted by self-proclaimed personal development gurus that is dead wrong. Many believe that self-love is a one-off thing that we are “supposed to do.” Yet, the truth is that self-love is the result of healing, growth, and putting all the pieces of greatest selves into place. So, loving ourselves isn’t a “thing” we are supposed to do; it is “THE” thing that is the evidence of our growth.

This week we are taking a one-on-one deep dive into an essential life practice that must be in place for us to reach self-love.

What is it? It’s self-trust.

Do you ever feel like you are a different person to different people in your life? Do some people see one side of you while others do not? Or, do you ever feel like you struggle to express yourself fully? Maybe you knowingly hide behind who you truly are deep inside? If so, you are not fully engaging with and living through your most authentic self.

This week we’re taking a one-on-one deep dive into authenticity.

In the years I’ve worked with women, one concept continually comes up. For some, it’s taboo. For others, there’s a deep curiosity and desire to understand how it works. For another group, there’s complete dismissal. No matter where you stand, you are likely using this principle in your daily life without even realizing it. What is it? It’s the Law of Attraction.

Maybe you’re scratching your head as to how behavioral therapy and the Law of Attraction have any connection, which is fair, so today, we’re taking a one-on-one deep dive into this universal principle that is the basis of everything I teach—what you focus grows.

We all want to be liked and loved—it’s a natural part of our desire and need for human connection. In fact, from the moment we are born, we begin seeking connection. However, while this desire is innate, there can be a tipping point where being liked and loved turns into seeking approval and validation through the assurance of others.

This kind of connection seeking is a hallmark trait of people-pleasing.

If you have spent any time working toward personal growth or have read any personal development books you have likely heard the term “limiting beliefs.” While the conversation around limiting beliefs seems to be the “it” topic right now, many do not go deep enough into these psychological defense mechanisms to explain what they are, let alone where they come from.

Today, we’re taking a one-on-one deep dive into how limiting beliefs negatively impact your life, how we trick our brains into believing our limits are keeping us safe, and I’ll walk you step-by-step into identifying your limiting beliefs, and most importantly how to shatter them and ultimately eradicate them from your life!

This week we are taking a one-on-one deep dive into a practice that allows us to do just that. What is it? It’s meditation.

This isn’t your typical conversation about breathing and quieting the mind. Instead, we’re taking a journey through the science and benefits, breaking down meditation myths, and I’ll hand over what most people do wrong when they practice. This is one conversation that gives you the tools to use your mind to your greatest benefit.

Do you feel things deeply? Have you ever been told you are too sensitive? Are you the peacemaker amongst your friends and family?

If so, you may be an empath. Being an empath is a superpower if you know how to use it to your advantage.

This week we are taking a one-on-one deep dive into what it means to be an empath, the top 15 signs that you are one, how to regulate your emotional and mental wellbeing from today forward, the brain science behind the empathic feeling, and lastly, we’ll chat about grounding and necessary practices you need to make your life work for you!

Are you moving through something big right now? You are not alone! However, we often think we are when we move through significant moments. In this space, we struggle to let go of what is no longer serving us because fear and guilt trump our needs and our perceived worthiness to have a grounded, healthy, and happy life.

And thanks to fear, many believe that letting go is impossible, traumatic, or downright impossible. This week we are doing just that through a one-on-one deep dive into the shadow side of healing. We’re entering a space where we consciously create a path for our deepest desires, the self-awareness process, and learning how to let go of people and relationships, heavy emotions and trauma, attachment, and the obstacles that stand in our way.

When was the last time you listened to your inner conversation? Is it serving you, or does it take you down? Most women struggle with their inner critic and tend to beat themselves up. Is this you? If so, there’s one essential life practice that can silence the inner critic, help you release the need to trash yourself and your worth, and is the ultimate foundation of self-love.

What is it? It’s self-empathy.

While you may be familiar with having empathy for others, turning this practice inward changes the inner conversation and opens the door to cultivating inner peace, happiness, and gives you the courage to be the woman who loves themselves fiercely.

Do negative thoughts trip you up?

There’s not a single person who isn’t impacted by negative thoughts at some point in their lives, if not in their daily lives. Unfortunately, many do not realize that negative thought loops can swiftly destroy their mood, rock their confidence, and erode their self-esteem after mere weeks of practicing thoughts that do not serve them.  

If we want to get our lives together, we must learn to embrace the opportunity to shift out of old pattern thinking. If old patterns and limiting beliefs are not the issues, we must examine whether we have a negativity addiction. Regardless of why, when we are open to the possibility of change, we can literally change our lives by changing our minds with daily practice.

Is your life owning you or do you own it? Big question, right?

After years of studying our experiences, emotions, and behaviors, there’s one thing that I know with absolute certainty and clarity, our personal history, our stories, have incredible, therapeutic healing power.

The problem is most of us do not use this power to our advantage. There is a tool that each of us has access to that is self-directed and requires nothing more than your thoughts, a pen, and a piece of paper.

When was the last time you took a full, deep breath?

I bet it’s been a while, and to be honest, you are not alone! Breathing is a vital part of life, yet most of us underestimate how a simple inhale and exhale can dramatically shift what is happening within. The shift is so significant it’s safe to say that proper, deep, therapeutic breathwork is the most potent and influential function your body has when it comes to regulating your nervous system, thought patterns, and bringing your mind, body, and spirit connection into alignment. The best part is that this ability is already within you and accessible. With such a great tool already at your fingertips, it’s time to use it to your benefit.

Do you know what love language you speak?

Do you know how you like to have your needs, emotional connectivity, and love style met?

Many understand that there is an unwritten communication of receiving, giving, and feeling love, but often how we express and expect love in return is lost in translation. This week, we’re breaking down the importance of love languages, the different types, recognizing your partner’s language, and we’ll connect the dots to asking for more when we’re not on the same page with our partners. Ultimately, if we understand our love language, we can strengthen all forms of communication, which results in happier, healthy, and far more grounded and productive relationships.

How would you rate your relationships? Would you say they are stable, safe, and grounded in true connectivity? Whether it’s the relationship with a spouse or partner, family, or even friends, there’s one element needed for our relationships to thrive. What is it? It’s emotional safety and security. Yet, most don’t realize there are grounded, actual steps needed to create trust-filled relationships with those we are closest. This week we’re diving into connectivity, what it takes to create an emotional safety net, and we’ll examine the small habits that have the power to shift any relationship from surviving to absolute thriving.